It takes heart to live in even ordinary times.
By “taking heart,” I mean several related things:
Sensing your heart and chest
Finding encouragement in what is good both around you and inside you
Resting in your own warmth, compassion, and kindness; resting in the ... Views: 2
After having been with a man who is overly focused on his mother for a little while, a woman can think about cutting her ties with him. This is because she might not have the energy or the desire to continue living in this way.
But, if she has been in this position for a number of months or ... Views: 2
If a man were to step back and reflect on how he sees women, he could find that he doesn’t have a positive view of them. So, he could see them as being out of reach, cold, critical and emotionally unstable.
This can show that, over the years, he has been with a number of women who were like ... Views: 3
Alright, let’s talk about something super exciting—playing casino games online and actually winning some real money. Sounds fun, right? Whether you’re new to the world of online casinos or you’ve dabbled a bit, there’s definitely a lot of buzz around the idea of winning cash just from spinning ... Views: 6
When a man starts dating a woman, he can end up putting on an act. This can be something that just takes place, as opposed to him consciously choosing to behave this way.
So, he can come across as confident and as though nothing bothers him. As a result, he is going to hide certain parts of ... Views: 5
We live in a day and age where technology has entered all facets of life. From online shopping to online classes and even the manner in which we communicate with one another, technology has enabled all that. Can technology, and more notably, artificial intelligence (AI), bring us nearer to God, ... Views: 6
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to feel safe. Due to this, they can spend a lot of time feeling exposed, with it being normal for them to feel anxious and even fearful.
The outcome of this is that they are seldom going to ... Views: 6
If a man is in a relationship with a woman, he could spend a lot of time trying to please her. As a result, he will be focused on her needs and will do what he can to meet them.
The outcome of this is that he won’t be connected to a number of his own needs and will neglect himself. Due to how ... Views: 7
After having been in a number of relationships that were anything but functional, a woman can end up in a relationship that is very different. This can be a relationship where the man (or woman) is reliable and consistent.
Due to this, what he says he will do will generally be what he does ... Views: 7
Mental health is just as important in drug rehab recovery as physical cleansing. Long-term sobriety may depend on treating the underlying mental and emotional issues, even though many people concentrate on getting rid of the substance. Rehabilitation programs that incorporate mental ... Views: 8
We’re usually aware of our own suffering, which – broadly defined – includes the whole range of physical and mental discomfort, from mild headache or anxiety to the agony of bone cancer or the anguish of losing a child. (Certainly, there is more to life than suffering, including great joy and ... Views: 7
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he has the tendency to be aloof when he is around women. As a result of this, he will come across as distant and it won’t be possible for a woman to connect to him.
He could see that this has largely stopped him from ... Views: 8
Often a partner of a narcissist is a narcissist attractor, but may not realize it until they’ve attracted more than one narcissist. They may have a narcissist in their family of origin, but not always, and not all children of narcissists end up with one. Not all partners of narcissists were ... Views: 10
Although certain areas of a man’s life might be going well, there might be one area that isn’t and it might have been this way for a while. So, his career could be going in the right direction and he might have a number of close friends, for instance.
However, when it comes to his love life, ... Views: 10
If a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, it can be hard for the people in his life to understand what is going on. His friends and his girlfriend, if he has one, are then going to be confused.
For them, it could be clear that he is living in the wrong way and needs to ... Views: 11
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, he might see that he has spent a lot of time trying to make women like him. Along with this, he might see that he has been with a number of women who were unable to love him.
As a result, he can believe that there is something wrong with ... Views: 11
Check Your Beliefs at The Door
by
Bill Cottringer
“Beliefs are choices. First you choose your beliefs. Then your beliefs affect your choices.” ~Roy T. Bennett.
Beliefs rule the world, but do we really understand the many problems that beliefs come with and also cause when they are ... Views: 11
Although someone’s childhood will be well and truly behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have fully moved on from this stage of their life. Due to this, what happened and the impact it had on them can still have a big effect on their life.
However, if they are not aware of this, what is ... Views: 12
The other day, I was thinking about how, as human beings, we can say that we want one thing but do things that don’t match up with what we want. Along with this, we can question if it is possible to attain it and even criticise what we want.
As a result of this, we might not be able to attain ... Views: 11
If one were to meet someone who they are attracted to and things went further, they could find that it is difficult for them to feel and express love for their partner. They are then going to be fond of them but they will feel restricted.
This can mean that they will find it hard to access ... Views: 13
As I grew up, at home and school it felt dangerous to be myself - my whole self, including the parts that made mistakes, got rebellious and angry, goofed around too loudly, or were awkward and vulnerable.
Not dangers of violence, as many have faced, but risks of being punished in other ... Views: 12
Practically from the moment that someone wakes up until they go to bed at night, they could be on the go. When they are not working, then, they can be exercising, practising a hobby or out socialising.
They can come across as confident, high-energy and as someone who is not afraid to try new ... Views: 11
A man might not remember a great deal about what took place during his formative years but that doesn’t mean what took place at this stage of his life is well and truly in the past. Consequently, his adult life can be very similar to how it was for him during this stage of his life.
It might ... Views: 13
If a man is in a position where his mother is using him to meet her own needs, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to accept this. Therefore, if he started dating a woman and she pointed this out, it wouldn’t have much impact.
He can say that his mother loves him and that he wants to be ... Views: 14
When people feel depressed, they often feel a sense of shame. Although the world in some ways is changing for the better, there is still a certain amount of stigma associated with mental health challenges.
A person suffering from depression may also be failing academically, not meeting work ... Views: 12
If a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother, he is not going to have much of a life. Ultimately, a lot of his time and energy will be directed towards meeting her needs, leaving him with very little time and energy to meet his own needs.
He is then going to be her son ... Views: 15
Even though someone is not powerless, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. In general, they could feel totally helpless and as though they have no control over their life.
But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be consciously aware of how they feel. As a result, there ... Views: 15
If a woman is in a relationship, she may have found that the man that she is with has become less available as time has passed. So, during the early stages, he might have soon replied to her messages, called her, generally been available to meet, been affectionate and expressed his inner world, ... Views: 14
At this point in time, a man may be in a relationship that is not going well. The main reason for this is that he might find that it is not possible for him to be connected to how he feels when he is with his girlfriend.
If so, when he is with her, he will lose touch with how he feels. He ... Views: 15
Even though someone has the ability to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will. Instead, they can have the tendency to play a role.
To use an analogy, it can be as if they have a car that they can drive anywhere but they continually drive the car to the same places. Living in this ... Views: 13
In general, someone’s emotional self may rarely, if ever, be settled, with them often being all at sea internally. Due to this, it might not be possible for them to live a normal life.
Now, it might not matter if they are around others or by themselves as they could struggle to handle what is ... Views: 14
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he spends a lot of time trying to please women. So, over the years he might have been in a number of relationships where he lost himself.
Therefore, thanks to how focused he was on trying to make the women happy, he ... Views: 13
# Introduction: Why Emotional Resilience Matters in Kids
In today’s fast-paced world, children face a range of emotional challenges, from academic pressures to social anxieties. As parents, ensuring that your child develops emotional resilience is crucial for their mental well-being and ... Views: 15
Humans are an empathic, compassionate, and loving species, so it is natural to feel sad, worried, or fiery about the troubles and pain of other people. (And about those of cats and dogs and other animals, but I'll focus on human beings here.)
Long ago, the Buddha spoke of the "first dart" ... Views: 16
Right now, at least one area of someone’s life might not be going as they want it to go. This area of their life might have also been this for as long as they can remember, which can add to the pain that they are experiencing.
So, they might have wanted to be in an intimate relationship for ... Views: 17
Deep down, someone can have the sense that they are only worthy of meeting their basic needs. Consequently, they can generally create a life where they survive but seldom if ever thrive.
But, if this is something that they are not consciously aware of, they can believe that this is just what ... Views: 19
In general, a man could do a lot for his mother, and he may have been this way for many years. He is then going to be more like her parent than her son, which will mean that he is out of balance.
However, no matter what he does for her, he could end up doing even more if she becomes ill and ... Views: 19
Here are my top five inner practices for helping this year be a good one for you and others (click the links to see the first four):
Drop the stone
Let it flow
Learn as you go
“Us” all “thems"
Be amazed
By “be amazed,” I mean staying open to a sense ... Views: 17
If a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has experienced a lot of frustration over the years. He could see that this is because his needs have largely not been met in one or a number of areas of his life.
Being deprived is then going to be normal and this will have naturally ... Views: 20
Right now, someone may be in a relationship that is anything but loving. So, they could be with someone who undermines them in a variety of different ways.
For example, they could rarely be seen or heard, receive affection, often be put down and humiliated and even be physically harmed. They ... Views: 20
Not too long ago, a man may have experienced a breakup. He may have been with a woman who didn’t treat him very well and be relieved that their time together has come to an end.
If so, this would have been a relationship that was anything but harmonious and there wouldn’t have been a great ... Views: 21
Even if someone’s early years were anything but nurturing, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. They might not remember a great deal about this stage of their life; then again, they might believe that this stage of their life wasn’t that bad, with it being a time when they received what ... Views: 23
Over the years, someone may have put a lot of effort into their career. Thanks to this, they might have been able to make a lot of progress, with them achieving a high position and doing well financially.
However, regardless of whether they hold a high position or are well off financially, ... Views: 23
Even though someone can want to achieve one or a number of things, it doesn’t mean that they will be fully aware of why this is. This is because they can be out of touch with what is truly driving them.
What this illustrates is that there is their conscious mind or conscious sense of ... Views: 28
It's kind of amazing: right now, what you think and feel, enjoy and suffer, is changing your brain. The brain is the organ that learns, designed by evolution to be changed by our experiences: what scientists call experience-dependent neuroplasticity.
Neurons that fire together, wire ... Views: 26
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they rarely feel happy or experience joy. In general, then, they are going to spend a lot of time feeling flat or down.
What might stand out is that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. If ... Views: 25
Recently, someone may have gone through a breakup, and, since then, they might not have been in a good way. This may have been a relationship that was going well or it might not.
Either way, there can be moments when they experience fear and anxiety, and other moments when they lose touch ... Views: 26
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they typically only have enough money to merely exist. So, they can have what they need to pay their rent, buy food and clothes, for instance, but that could be about it.
This could mean that they have a job ... Views: 29
Generational trauma is a form of trauma passed down to subsequent generations through environmental factors such as psychological transference and attachment behavior according to attachment theory. The psychological impact of a traumatic event, such as historical mistreatment, cultural ... Views: 29
If a man is in a relationship but is overly focused on his mother, his girlfriend is likely to be frustrated with what is going on. This is because he will spend a lot of time doing things for his mother, having very little time for himself, let alone her.
She might have kept her true ... Views: 29