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We have more real-time communication tools at our disposal. Communication tools range from mobile phones to the internet. The internet offers so many options such as social networking sites, e-mails, Skype and the list goes on. Listening attentively to the conversation at any particular time ... Views: 1946
If you would like to try something new and fun that can help you as a business owner, try taking an improv class. It may not be what first comes to mind as a traditional learning environment for the purpose of developing new skills, but what you will discover about yourself in the process is ... Views: 1686
The big secret to influencing skills is not what you probably expect. Want to know what the big secret in the world of powerful influencing is? It’s simple---listening. Yes, it is in the way you listen to be exact. You got to know and learn how to listen to explore this empowering force in ... Views: 1555
How can you tell if someone has low self esteem? Are there some tell-tale signs you can easily recognize? Actually, there are. People with low self-esteem, or lacking in self confidence, will usually exhibit certain verbal and non-verbal behaviour which points to their insecurity—clues you ... Views: 6124
One thing is true, whether a child has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder or not, children need attention from their parents. Our attention comforts and teaches. It is the most important thing in their young lives.
Another truth is children want to succeed; they want to be good. They ... Views: 1431
Being a good listener makes you a strong communicator. When I was in direct sales, I became one of the top leaders on our North American team, I think because I was 100 percent committed to, and diligent in achieving my daily goal: to conduct 50 cold calls per week day. As a result of my ... Views: 1516
I have long been of the view that “normal” behaviour is bizarre. After all, the Universities of Chicago and Milan calculate that so-called “normal” people use just 1% of their mental capacity to do what they’re doing in the here and now. The rest of their mental energy is wasted on looking ... Views: 4313
People have a need to be listened to because of an increased sense of isolation at home and at work. Listening to someone shows that you care for that person. When we do not listen, we are showing that we really do not care about the person who is talking.
Listening creates connection, ... Views: 2089
Whenever we face a communication dilemma, whether we must tell our aging parents that they can no longer live independently or tell our best friend that her clothes do not suit her, we agonize over what to do. How do we tell people things they do not wish to hear?
These kind of communication ... Views: 14464
How many of us have walked into a room full of people and wanted to turn around and leave? When I think about networking events, my heart freezes. Didn’t our mothers teach us not to speak to strangers? Yet, in this article we're going to examine how to talk to strangers.
First thing you need ... Views: 1491
Did you know there are Six Messages in any conversation?
• What you Mean to say
• What you Actually say
• What the other person Hears
• What the other person Thinks he/she hears
• What the other person Says
• What you Think the other person says
No wonder we have communication ... Views: 2645
Studies have shown that most managers spend between 60 to 80 percent of their workday communicating with other people on the telephone, in meetings, and in casual conversations. Assuming we listen as much as we speak, which is a pretty big assumption, we spend a good portion of our day in ... Views: 1458
Remember Bruce Lee?
The name Bruce Lee commands respect and admiration from all over the world. The diminutive man, who stood 1.73 meters tall and weighed less than 65 kilograms, is considered by many as the greatest martial artist of the 20th century. His dynamic on-screen style and stunts ... Views: 3254
Feedback can be a valuable tool in personal and professional development. The opinions of others can give you insight into your own behavior that you may not know or find out on your own. Although it is very useful, sometimes feedback can be difficult to hear, especially if it has not been ... Views: 4729
Ernest Hemingway once said “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” How true that is. How many times has someone asked you how you were, but doesn’t take the time to listen to your response? They may cut you off, start talking about themselves, or walk away. If ... Views: 3427
Many have long touted the efficiency of multitasking, especially with the availability of the numerous technological tools for busy executives, but recent research studies have proven otherwise. In one research study to test attention and memory, “low multitaskers” consistently outperformed ... Views: 2899
1. Listen to other people. The most successful people let others talk more than they do.
Use questions to expand the conversation beyond small talk.
Ask probing questions to elicit a person’s dreams and passions.
Uncover ways that you can contribute to others and take action immediately.
2. ... Views: 2983
It can be amazing to listen to how people talk about their perception of reality. You can literally hear how close they get to a point that would allow shift, but stop short.
I had dinner with a friend I hadn’t seen in a long while. As he told me about things that were different, it was easy ... Views: 1747
Listen! Take time to REALLY listen. Pay attention to the difference between the sounds of your house or office throughout the day. Enjoy those differences and notice if the sounds create a melody you like or if you want to change something about your environment so there are more opportunities ... Views: 3660
Listen – Who are you listening to? The person that you need to listen to is you. Inside you is your heart’s desire, and I want you to commit today to truly ?gure out your “Why”. Your Why is the reason that you get out of bed each day, the reason that you continue to build your business despite ... Views: 1409
In my work with individuals and couples, I see many people who have a difficult time expressing and managing angry feelings. Let's take a look at what causes people to become angry and how they can respond to stressful situations more productively.
What Is Anger?
Many people think that ... Views: 1519
In my opinion, there is no greater way to show love and devotion for our friends, family, loved ones, etc., than to truly listen to them. And by listening, I mean listening from the heart. I am sure none of you can relate to this, but I have actually had experiences of people texting DURING ... Views: 1029
Have you ever played the telephone game? You know, person A whispers something into the ear of person B, who whispers the very same thing (hopefully) into the ear of person C, who whispers that same message (theoretically) into the ear of person D, and on and on until they reach the end of the ... Views: 2473
Conflict happens in relationships. And the tension it brings is opportunity knocking at the door.
We actually learn more by listening than we do by talking! When we are experiencing contrast or conflict with others, we are usually trying our best to persuade them to our point of view. ... Views: 2712
Listening is such a simple process. One person talks, the other person listens. Or do they?
We often confuse hearing with listening. The two are different, though both are done with our ears. Hearing is a natural function of the ear which involves the reception of sound. It's one of your ... Views: 5105
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*** Body Listening - by Paul Chek, The Official Guide to Personal Development
Truly hearing someone when they’re speaking to you can be far more challenging than you might imagine and there’s lots of training out there to help you become a better listener. Most of this training, however, misses out on an important first step to genuine communication. When it comes to ... Views: 2298
Why am I talking about love in the context of business? And no, I don’t mean a passionate office romance. I’m talking about the fact that loving my clients has been a key to success in my business. It hit me several years ago when someone asked me the secret to my success...without ... Views: 1622
Overcoming Risk Aversion in Selling
Help clients move forward in the selling process
The deadline is approaching, your month is ending and the prospects that should be closing and going for it are not!
What is a salesperson to do! We done the discovery, asked the questions, provided the ... Views: 2235
Ever notice how much of your work involves dealing with people? Have you noticed, too, that they don’t necessarily follow the script you have written for them? And, when they don’t, it can be fun, interesting, disappointing, frustrating and even downright painful depending on the situation.
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A reader emailed me with a question: "You give points on being a good listener. I try, but I find myself at times interrupting because I'm so afraid I'm going to forget what I have to say. I've been told to keep a pen and paper handy to jot down what I want to say once the speaker has finished. ... Views: 11164
In 1974, Dr. Virginia Satir presented the concept of mirroring in her groundbreaking book, "Conjoint Family Therapy."
In 1975 Dr. Thomas Gordon wrote a best-selling book called "Parent Effectiveness Training." In the book he taught parents to "active listen," which ... Views: 4099
How many times have we thought I wish they would just listen? Listening in itself is an art form, many people will hear you, though do not listen. This is why many a breakdown in marriage or relationship, is attributed to this one area.
Life throws us challenges daily and will continue to do so ... Views: 1535
One key to becoming a great conversationalist is to pause before replying. A short pause, of three to five seconds, is a very classy thing to do in a conversation.
When you pause, you accomplish three goals simultaneously.
The Benefits of Pausing
First, you avoid running the risk of ... Views: 1511
The art of good conversation centers very much on your ability to ask questions and to listen attentively to the answers.
You can lace the conversation with your insights, ideas, and opinions, but you perfect the art and skill of conversation by perfecting the art and skill of asking good, ... Views: 1266
"Hearing with the heart improves our focus, memory, and connection with what needs to be heard and understood. Hearing with the heart is an action of discipline, which transforms hearing into empathic listening." --Suzanne Kyra
Hearing—the first sense developed in utero—connects the fetus to ... Views: 1870
What does it take to really hear someone? In a previous article I discussed 4 types of listeners-Compassionate, Too Busy to Listen, Trees for Forrest, It's Me. Each of us has a bit of all four of these types and yet we all aspire to the Compassionate Listener. Some of us think we are ... Views: 2471
Larry thought he was a great listener. That morning while drinking his coffee his wife was complaining about the kids. “They never pay attention to anything I say.” She went on to list all the mundane mishaps of each child. Larry tuned her out. He heard little after the first sentence. ... Views: 1504
Communication is the key to both a healthy family life as well as an integral part of forming and maintaining relationships outside of the home. If you can't express yourself to those around you, you will end up stunting the growth of your relationships and harming your connections with loved ... Views: 2518
We’ve heard of leadership styles and communication styles. Have you ever wondered about your listening style? Most self-assessments do not measure how we listen. Yet, we all recognize how important listening is to communication. Many people say that listening ranks much higher than actual ... Views: 12031
What is the biggest communications challenge my clients face? The simple answer is listening. My clients struggle with listening because their heads get in the way. They grapple with ways to communicate their messages and often ask me about how to go about saying what they want to say the ... Views: 3548
As I sit here now, I feel the warm sun on my face and hear the children afar. I notice the walkers, bikers, skaters, and strollers all scoot by me. I hear the humming of the highway adding to the noise behind me and birds of many kinds in the trees above. I see the sand as it runs into the ... Views: 1941
Perhaps the most important application for your listening skills is when you communicate with your partner. A process called reciprocal communication provides a structure in which you can really hear each other. Here's how it works. When you're discussing a topic that is a conflict area for ... Views: 1675
Ever been chatting with someone and, before you can even finish your sentence, they interrupt to share their own thought or finish yours for you? Or perhaps you are in the middle of making an important point and their attention is pulled away as they check their ringing cell phone, send an email ... Views: 6654
The energy flowing between you, your body, and your connections with the body of the world can be consciously appreciated - if you pay close enough attention.
Let this practice of mindful listening to a larger body tune you in to the joy of the world.
1. The next time you are part of an ... Views: 1525
Zen: Finding enlightenment through intuition and introspection.
Listening: Making an effort to attentively hear another person speaking.
Therefore Zen Listening might be best described as the art of using one’s intuition and introspection to be fully present with another person during a ... Views: 2373
When I was younger, I played guitar, and that opened many doors. People would come over in the evening just to share music, sitting in a circle in the living room, playing and singing. Picking up a guitar and lunching into a song was a sure way to meet people. One of the keys to that though, was ... Views: 1491
Listening is a crucial skill for success in business and in life. If we listen to others, we show them respect, we learn to understand their points of view and we help to build our relationships.
Here are 5 more ways to improve your listening skills:
1. Show empathy. Empathy means that ... Views: 1172
Listening is a crucial skill for professional and personal success. Yet it seems like such a basic skill - we all know how to listen, right? But although this skill is basic in theory, it's difficult to execute. Yes, everyone can listen, but how many people can listen well?
Communication is ... Views: 2355
Relative silence -
May 24, 2007
OK, now for our daily muse:
This is for listeners, and musicians alike, part in response to
comments and complaints from performers, and part just blathering.
Relative Silence
"Do what your heart tells you to do."
That's what she always told me. That loving ... Views: 1011
The strangest stories are usually the true life ones. Take Marnie (not her real name), who recollected as a child ingrade 3 how she would roll a large piece of art paper around herself and stand in a corner. Her teacher would try to get her to come out; the other children would make fun of her. ... Views: 2673