Read the book "Real Love" and take advantage of the resources on www.RealLove.com, where you will learn the principles that will make dramatic changes in your individual life and in all your relationships.

Coaching with Sharon Winningham you will learn answers to the following questions:

What is the real cause of anger and conflict in relationships of all kinds?
What is the real cause of fear and anxiety in our individual lives and in our relationships?
What can we do to eliminate anger and confusion in our lives and replace them with peace and confidence?
How can we respond in healthy ways to the anger and criticism of others?
Why do we often feel helpless and victimized, and what can we do about changing these destructive feelings?
What is the real cause of compulsions or addictions in our lives, and how can we respond to them in healthy ways?
What can we do to find genuine and consistent happiness, in and out of relationships?

In order to be happy, what we all want more than anything else is to feel loved. Even the Beatles knew that "All you need is love" but not just any kind of love will do. We need Real Love, unconditional love. It's Real Love when other people care about our happiness without any concern for themselves. When we make our foolish mistakes, when we don't do what they want, or even when we inconvenience them personally, they're not disappointed or angry.

Sadly, few of us have received that kind of love with any degree of consistency. Instead, from the time we were children, we saw that when we were "good" (when we behaved in the ways that other people liked) we received a great deal of approval in the form of smiles, kind words, pats on the back, and so on. We also saw, however, that when we were "bad" (when we were loud, ungrateful, disobedient, and otherwise inconvenient) the signs of approval were replaced in an instant with frowns, facial expressions, and tones of voice that clearly expressed disappointment, disapproval, and irritation. From those patterns of behavior we learned this powerful lesson: When you're good, I love you; when your not, I don't.

Getting Started With Sharon Winningham, CRLC

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How do I do it?

If you have a desire to acquire more Real Love—and in the process find great personal happiness and more fulfilling relationships than you ever thought possible—I suggest three approaches that I will describe in ascending order of effectiveness and difficulty.

Before describing these approaches, however, let me compare finding Real Love and genuine happiness to the physical training of an athlete. Suppose you wish to become minimally fit, just a step above couch potato. In that case, if I were your trainer, I would prescribe a minimally rigorous course of physical exercise—perhaps a few trips to the mail box each day. If you wish to become thoroughly fit, however, I would prescribe a strenuous course of exercise.

The higher your goal of fitness, the more work will be involved.

The same is true with finding Real Love and genuine happiness. It requires some effort on our parts. If you want to eliminate anger, fill your life with happiness, and experience greater joy in your relationships than you can imagine at this point, that will require more effort than if you want to just gain a little intellectual understanding about Real Love as a principle. I hasten to add, however, that the effort required to find Real Love is actually less than the effort we now spend on Getting and Protecting Behaviors. Lying, attacking, acting like victims, running, and clinging require enormous effort, to the point that they usually utterly exhaust us.

Now, let me suggest three progressively difficult and effective programs for finding Real Love and the happiness you want.

First Level

• Read the book Real Love—The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love and Fulfilling Relationships.
• Go to Group once a week
• Make Real Love Phone Calls-1 a day

Second Level

• Read the book Real Love
• Go to group twice a week
• Participate on 2 conference calls a week
• Journal to a coach or wise person once a day
• Make Real Love Phone Calls-3 a day

Third Level

• Read the book Real Love
• Go to group twice a week
• Participate on 2 conference calls a week
• Journal to a coach or wise person once a day
• Make Real Love Phone Calls-3 a day
• Watch the DVD set, The Essentials of Real Love.
• Read additional books in the Real Love series: Real Love in Marriage, Real Love in

Parenting, Real Love in Dating, Real Love in the workplace and so on.

• Get a coach, one from the Real Love site or one you know personally.
• Participate in workshops and Seminars
• Join www.meetup.com/reallove become a member, download a photo
• Have the CD’s of real love playing in your car or home all the time
• Go to www.Reallove.com. Utilize all the free resources: http://www.reallove.com/benefits.asp
• Go to the Forums on www.Reallove.com and ask questions of the national coaches: http://www.reallove.com/forums/default.asp