Helping frustrated people find the ‘Period’ to their arguing. Learn to express anger so others listen. I’ll show you exactly how to handle the disrespectful, aggressive anger of your partner. Is there ‘Real Hope’ for this relationship? Or, is it ‘Toxic Hope’ for me to think this will change?
"One reason you are still in the room arguing... is that you are still in the room... arguing." -Marc Sadoff
"Women feel the pain of the struggle within the relationship. Men often don't feel the pain until after it's over."
"You can't let go of something until you've held it, owned it, felt it." - Marc Sadoff
"Put down the binoculars and pick up a mirror." This one comes from Al-Anon
"First Pants.... then Shoes! - This is my metaphor interpretation of Saint Francis of Assissi. It means simply 'to first seek to understand and comfort others BEFORE seeking to be understood yourself. It's not just a nice spiritual thought! It is a practical, relevant and efficient way of handling conflict. Simply put- Take turns! And, let the other go first. You'll get your turn. And, you will be listened to in much less defensive manner.
My website is RealHope.com and you'll find more info about this subject and me.
I have a private practice in West Los Angeles where I provide individual and couples therapy, couples workshops, marriage therapy, EMDR and TRM therapies for traumatic experiences. Anger that is expressed as hostility often has it's roots in childhood experiences. Patterns of staying with abusive partners also are shaped by prior attachments and relationships.
My philosophy is that no one wakes up thinking to themself, "How can I abuse my partner." Violence and mental or emotional abuse is not justified by any behaviors of the partner. Both parties have something to learn in these patterns. I try to outline how to determine whether there is 'Real Hope' for a relationship; and to know the signs that a relationship has you in 'Toxic Hope.' There are suprisingly few signs that this is so.
Primarily, does a partner say there is something to change about his, or her, behavior?
And secondly, is there a willingness, followed by actions, to do something specifically about hostile, aggressive and abusive behaviors?
My background includes having been in an abusive relationship myself.
I've been facilitating a Domestic Violence Men's Group in Los Angeles for 26 years, with Alyce LaViolette,MS.
I've led Couples Workshops for handling conflict and improving communication skills and conflict management for 16 years.
The 132 page manual for the workshop is written by me. It's sold four thousand copies self-published and will be available on Amazon in March of 2014.
I've been written about in Time Magazine, Women's World, Glamour and Cosmopolitan Magazine.
I'm looking forward to creating a community of people and couples who can share their experience, strength and hope with others regarding their experience of moving through disrespectful communication patterns to achieving great anger management skills.
My West Los Angeles office number is 310-444-1951
My email is Marc@RealHope.com
My website is- www.RealHope.com
My office address is: 2211 Corinth Ave. Suite 309 Los Angeles, CA 90064