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One thing that someone could wonder, if they were abused as a child, is why one of their parents abused them but treated others differently. They could see that while this parent was not always pleasant to others, they were not abusive toward them.
Therefore, they might have had moments when ... Views: 120
If someone was to sit with themselves and was able to connect with how they really feel, what they may soon find is that they don’t feel as though they deserve to exist. As opposed to being worthy of being here, then, they will feel like an intruder.
After this, they could look into why this ... Views: 99
In today’s world, the general view is that the citizenry is being victimised by those at the top. For some, this relates to the government and for others, this relates to those that live in the shadows.
If, then, it wasn’t for what these people have done and are doing, the world would be a ... Views: 103
If someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might soon find out that the parent that abused them is not willing to acknowledge what took place. Assuming it was one parent, they might have been told, on numerous occasions, that what they say happened didn’t happen.
It then ... Views: 102
If a man typically acts like an extension of his mother, he is likely to seldom if ever truly be seen by her. What this will mean is that she won’t be able to acknowledge that he has his own needs and feelings.
It will then be as if the only reason he is on this earth is to be there for her ... Views: 125
What will be clear, if a man behaves as though he is an extension of his mother, is that he hasn’t separated from her. He will then be an adult, but based on how he behaves, it will be as if he is still a dependent child.
However, there is a chance that he is not even aware of the fact that ... Views: 101
If someone has been in a number of relationships that were somewhat or extremely abusive, they might have decided to stay single for a little while. Then again, they might not want to be in another relationship.
But, taking into account what they have been through, this could be seen as a ... Views: 232
Investing can be a great way to build wealth and achieve your financial goals. However, finding the right investment platform and making smart investment decisions can be a challenge, especially if you are new to the world of investing. That's where brokers come in - they can help you find the ... Views: 144
Although someone may live in an area that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel safe. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they live in a warzone.
So, from practically the moment they wake up until the moment they fall asleep, they could seldom feel at ... Views: 107
Nowadays, if someone is having relationship problems, it is not going to be difficult for them to find information that goes into why this is and what they can do about it. After a basic search online, there will be thousands of videos and articles that will provide them with a lot of ... Views: 112
If someone is in a position where they continually end up being deprived of what they need, it is naturally going to have a negative effect on them. So, what could be normal is for them to lack the emotional and financial support they need, be alone, and not be valued or loved.
As a result of ... Views: 130
At this point in time, someone may be working towards something, and this could be something that they hope to achieve in a few months or it could be slightly longer. And, due to how important it is to them, it could also consume a lot of their attention.
So, throughout the day and when they ... Views: 124
Although someone is a human being, based on how they typically behave, they could be described as a human doing. The reason for this is that they could practically always be on the go.
And, if they were to sit still for a short moment, they could soon end up feeling deeply irritated and end ... Views: 138
If a man is in a position where he is seldom there for himself and spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, he is going to be depriving himself of what he needs. Based on how he behaves, it will be as though he doesn’t have many needs.
However, although this is something that may ... Views: 107
At times, someone is going to need to stand their ground and not tolerate something. By doing this, they will be paying attention to their own needs and looking after their own well-being in the process.
At other times, they will need to go after what it is that they desire. This will also ... Views: 108
There are some people that are not very confident and are full of doubt, while there are others that are full of confidence and don’t really experience doubt. Due to this, those that can relate to the former often achieve far less than those that can relate to the latter.
If one was to meet ... Views: 105
In today's fast-paced business environment, advertising is a vital tool for the success of any business. Whether it's a small business or a large corporation, effective advertising can help to build brand awareness, drive traffic, and increase sales. However, advertising can be expensive, and ... Views: 144
What someone could wonder, if they were to come across a man that is overly caught up with his mother, is why he behaves in this way. He will be a man, not a boy, so there is going to be no reason for his life to revolve around her.
As this is the case, his life should come first and his ... Views: 132
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel down and low. For most of their life, this may have been something that they have typically been able to cover up.
Now, though, it could be a lot harder for them to do this and this might make ... Views: 136
After someone has experienced a breakup, lost a loved one, or had a pet pass on, for instance, they could end up embracing how they feel and allowing themselves to grieve. This is then likely to be a time when they won’t behave as they usually would.
So, they might no longer have the desire ... Views: 116
Peace of Mind
by
Bill Cottringer
“When you've seen beyond yourself, then you may find, peace of mind is waiting there.” ~George Harrison.
The amount of peace of mind we have, like happiness, contentment and other states of mind, depends largely on who we define the concept. It may ... Views: 155
There are those that are in tune with their need to be loved and those that are not. When someone is not in tune with this need, they might have been this way for most if not all of their life.
As a result of this, they won’t be in tune with this need and this will be something that they are ... Views: 135
If someone doesn’t believe that they are lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Even so, how they see themselves is still going to have an effect on how they experience life.
By being this way, it can be normal for them to push human warmth away. But, if they are not aware of ... Views: 157
After someone has become aware of the fact that they are not connected to their feelings or are rarely connected to them, they might end up criticising themselves. They could even end up believing that there is something inherently wrong with them.
If so, this is not going to be a time when ... Views: 124
If a man’s life revolves around his mother, what will stand out is that he is going to act more like an extension of her than a separate being that has his own needs and life to lead. At this point, it could be said that he just needs to implement boundaries with her and live his own ... Views: 112
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel alone, ignored and unsupported. Now, this could be a sign that they don’t have many friends and spend a lot of time by themselves, or it might not be this black and white.
If they can relate to ... Views: 130
Although someone can have a fear of being left, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Even so, this can still be a fear that will have a massive impact on their life.
So, from outside of their couscous awareness, this fear is likely to define how they generally behave. ... Views: 107
What can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel, with their true feelings also being a mystery to them. Therefore, not only will the people in their life not know what is going on for them, they themselves are also not going to know what is going on for them.
This can mean that they ... Views: 125
As someone is an interdependent human being, it will be important for them to have relationships where they are seen and heard. When this takes place, not only will their physical self be seen but their inner world will also be seen.
This will take place by them opening up about how they ... Views: 108
Physically, a man will be separate from his mother, but, although this will be the case, it doesn’t mean that he will act as though he is separate from her. What can be normal is for him to act as though he is part of her.
Consequently, her needs will be his needs and he will spend a lot of ... Views: 121
After being with a number of women who were anything but feminine, a man could be at the point where he wants this area of his life to change. In fact, he could be desperate to be with a woman who is different.
However, thanks to the experiences that he has had over the years, a big part of ... Views: 148
On the one hand, there can be the type of man that a woman wants to be with, and, then, on the other, there can be the type of man that she ends up with. When it comes to the type of man that she wants to be with, this can be a man that is able to stand his ground and be assertive, among other ... Views: 197
While someone’s life can be an expression of their needs and feelings, it can also be an expression of the needs and feelings of others. When it relates to the former, this will be their real self, and, when it relates to the latter, this will be their unreal self.
Naturally, when someone’s ... Views: 140
If a man is out with his friends, he can typically be easy-going and happy to go along with whatever another person wants to do. He is then going to go along to get along and he will rarely assert himself.
It might not be much different when he is at work, as he could be just as compliant and ... Views: 119
What can be normal is for a man to be out of touch with how he feels and to be in a collapsed physical state. Due to this, he can typically go through the motions in life, not feeling alive or as though his life has much meaning.
But, if he has been this way for a very long time, he might not ... Views: 125
It is part of the human experience for someone to spend time asleep and time awake. One way of looking at this would be to say that they will then spend part of their life being and part of their life doing.
At the same time, this wouldn’t be completely accurate as there will need to be ... Views: 112
What a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he doesn’t believe that he is enough for a woman. As a result of this, he might not have ever been in a relationship and, if he has, it might not have lasted for very long.
However, even if he is aware of this, it ... Views: 121
When it comes to how someone experiences life, how they see themselves will have a big impact. However, they might not even think about how they see themselves and, even if they do, this could just be seen as who they are.
If, then, they have an empowering view of themselves, this is not ... Views: 106
If a man was to end up in a relationship with a woman who he is very fond of and is starting to love, it doesn’t mean that every part of him will be on board with this relationship. Along with the part of him that feels that he is doing the right thing, can be another part that feels as though ... Views: 160
Although someone is likely to have been connected to and expressed their emotional needs when they were a child, it doesn’t mean that this will be the case now that they are an adult. In general, their emotional needs could be a mystery and, naturally, this will stop them from expressing ... Views: 130
Even though someone is not a child, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like a strong and capable adult. But, if experiencing life in this way is just a normal part of their life, they might not be aware of this.
Another part of this is that they might both consciously and unconsciously do ... Views: 143
Long before it’s possible for us to be spiritually reborn, we must first awaken to ourselves.
Awakening is the sudden realization that somehow or other what I took to be the only world isn’t the only world..
But in a true awakening, I recognize that there’s a world beneath me. And the ... Views: 164
In general, someone could spend a lot of time working, having very little time for anything else. It doesn’t mean that this is something that will cross their mind, though, as it could just be what is normal.
And, if they ever do think about how much time they spend working, they could end up ... Views: 113
Even though someone’s physical self will be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that the rest of them will typically be seen by others. What this means is that their inner world, so what their thoughts are about certain things and how they feel, for instance, might seldom be revealed to ... Views: 124
If someone made a number of New Year’s resolutions, it doesn’t mean that they will have followed through with any of them. They could think about some if not all of the things that they planned to do every now and then but that could be about as far as it will go.
Yet, even if they don’t have ... Views: 131
What a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at bay. Not only this, but when he is around them, he may find that he is usually anxious.
And, if he is not on edge, he could see that he loses touch with what is going on ... Views: 136
The Dynamics of Trust
by
Bill Cottringer
“The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” ~Ernest Hemingway.
Trust is an essential ingredient to successful resolution of the three main conflicts which we all must deal with in life: (a) us vs. life (b) us vs. ... Views: 181
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they typically need to be by themselves in order to feel settled and at ease. Along with this, this can be when they generally experience a sense of freedom and are able to be themselves.
On the other hand, ... Views: 123
After a number of months have passed, a woman may see that her partner is overly focused on his mother. Regardless of if this stood out in the beginning, then, it will now be something that is only too clear.
The next step can be for her to talk to him about what is going on, to see if she ... Views: 263
If a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother, it is not going to be a surprise if he ends up coming to the conclusion that he is this way because of how his mother treated him very early on. The reason for this is that after looking into what took place during his early years, he ... Views: 150