For every entrepreneur, your ideal client or team member is a version of YOU. This is one of the key points in my coaching system; I share this with each client. You do not attract random people; you attract people who have something (typically, many things) in common with you.

Here’s what I know about you, as a member of the Expand Your Mind, Expand Your Money community.

1. You have a big WHY. You are in your specific business, working with your ideal clients, because you have a passionate purpose to bring into the world through your business. You’re not simply making a living; you’re helping your ideal clients live a better life.

2. You’re emotionally wired to be an entrepreneur. You want to have control over your schedule, over your income, and over the speed with which you move up in your company or field. You enjoy deciding what to do when.

3. As an entrepreneur, given your desire to determine your schedule, income and advancement, you view your career choice as “natural”. It provides you with all these options and you get to be in the driver’s seat. On the other hand, many people in your life view your career choice as “risky”, because no one else is guaranteeing your paycheck.

4. You’re ambitious. You are not content with the status quo. You want MORE. More success, greater impact on people’s lives, more income, and ultimately, more peace in your life. You want to be at a point where you have financial security AND fun money; you can provide your partner with more options for them to work or not; you’ve taken care of your kids’ future; and you’re running your business in a way that is sustainable, so it doesn’t overwhelm you.

5. You’re BUSY. You have many roles to play: being a great wife/partner, being a mom, running the house, taking care of pets, and more! In your business, you work IN your business with your clients; you work ON your business with your team, marketing, sales, buying office supplies; and you work to grow yourself through personal development

6. You’re highly independent in your work and usually work alone. You’re used to getting it done on your own. Perhaps you didn’t get support as a child and became highly independent early on, or perhaps you’re saving money now and doing it all yourself.


First, you’re in the right spot! You’re in the right spot in your choice to be an entrepreneur. You’re a good fit in my community. We speak the same language.

Second, you’ve got some built-in challenges that are the flip-side of the qualities listed above.

Challenge 1: Because you view being an entrepreneur as a “natural choice”, while family or friends or colleagues see it as “risky”, you don’t always feel understood by the people in your life.

Challenge 2: Because you want MORE and you’re BUSY, you struggle with balance. It’s easy for you to over-schedule yourself. When that happens, the first thing to go is your self-care. You take care of others before yourself. You want to help others AND spend more time on your business AND spend more time with your family AND you want to get a mani-pedi too! Where do all your priorities fit in?

Challenge 3: Given your self-reliance and independence, you have a hard time asking for support. You may have a hard time simply recognizing when you need support. You also have a hard time receiving support. For example, you may feel compelled to jump in and help the person you’ve hired, instead of teaching them how to support you.

Call to Action

Look back at the challenges above. Which ones, if any, sound like you? And we ALL have challenges. When you have strength, like self-reliance, and you push it too far, it becomes a weakness. When you’re used to thinking of your particular qualities, like self-reliance, as strength, you may not realize the point at which they become a detriment to your growth.

Author's Bio: 

Marcy Stahl’s passion is helping women direct sellers and solopreneurs achieve the successful lifestyle they want. She knows that the top entrepreneurs have the top mindsets. Her mission is to help every entrepreneur develop a profitable and abundant mindset.

Marcy is a serial entrepreneur. Previously, she co-founded and managed a government contracting firm that earned over $1M in annual revenues. She holds a B.S. with honors and M.S. in Computer Science from George Mason University. Prior to coaching, she spent 21 years in the corporate world in technology.

She is the co-author of Direct Selling Power. Marcy is an Area Chapter Coordinator with the Direct Selling Women’s Alliance (DSWA) and a member of the Direct Selling Women’s Speaker Bureau. She’s currently in coaching school for direct sellers.