On December 18th, I had the privilege of attending the birth of my sixth grandchild and helping to care for him for the first few days of his life.

I think there are few things more soul-filling than to have a new baby sleep on your shoulder; to lightly touch his velvety skin with your cheek and smell that fleeting new baby smell.

As I held that beautiful baby in my arms, I thought of the six babies that I had given birth to; three of whom are parents themselves now. People talk about the miracle of birth and I agree; but to me, growth is just as great a miracle. To think that a newborn, helpless babe can grow up to one day create a child of their own is truly stunning!

But birth and physical growth is a natural event. We didn’t have anything to do with our birth and until we’re old enough to start making choices that could interfere with the process, we don’t have much control over our physical growth either.

However, we have 100% total control over our personal growth. This is the time of year when people make, and usually break, New Year’s Resolutions. You know the ones I’m talking about. This is the year that I lose weight, get out of debt, start that business, take that holiday, etc. However, statistics show that 90% of New Year’s Resolutions are broken before February 1st.

Why is that? There are lots of reasons given but through my own experiences and the many years of research I’ve done on this subject, I think it boils down to one answer. The goal is outside of the person’s belief system about themselves.

We each have a belief system about who and what we are, and we have to be true to it – even if it is negative and harmful (which it usually is). Our belief systems were installed, usually by our families, and were well established before we even went to school.

As a stress relief coach, I’ve found that the majority of negative belief systems involve having no value as yourself – only in what you do, being responsible to meet other people’s needs and being a failure, not deserving of good things.

This conditioning is subconscious (below the conscious mind level), so we are not aware that it’s there. However, until you change that conditioning and remove these negative emotional blocks, you will never be able to grow.

The exciting news is that you can change your belief systems. You can break the negative emotional blocks that are keeping you from being, doing or having what you want in your life. The most powerful tool I’ve found to accomplish this, is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).

I was a motivational course junkie for over 30 years. I took dozens of self improvement courses. I was taught by some of the motivational giants: Bob Proctor, Brian Tracey, Steven Covey. I did the Firewalk with Tony Robbins! I had all the knowledge about how to improve my life but nothing changed. Why? Because I had negative emotional blocks inside, that I didn’t even know were there, that I had to be true to. They would not allow me to apply the information so that I could make the desired transformation.

Through EFT, I learned about these limiting belief systems. More important, I learned how to break them. Most important of all, I did break them! I am finally free to be who I was always meant to be! I can’t begin to tell you what a difference that has made in the way I feel about myself and in my life.

So, if you are sick and tired of the same old, same old, there is a way out. You can start again. Not only can you start growing again, you can actually experience a rebirth – only this time, you will control the process.

Author's Bio: 

Sheryl Stanton is a registered nurse, stress relief specialist, speaker and trainer, as well as the author of three stress-relief books and DVD sets. She was chosen to receive the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010. She is available for interviews and can be reached by email: stressrelief@shaw.ca, by phone (604) 820 8439 or through her website: http://www.SherylStanton.com.