When you look in the mirror, what do you see? That you’re too short, too tall, too fat, too skinny? That you somehow grew a pimple overnight, or a new set of crows feet, or maybe it’s time to go shaved-head considering that ever-expanding bald spot?

Or do you see your wonderful smile, the sparkle in your eyes, the confident set of your shoulders? What do you see?

And then the $1,000,000 question: Do you like what you see?

There’s the rub. Most of us don’t like what we see. We find fault with so much of ourselves, mentally, physically, emotionally, that it’s no big surprise that we are riddled with self-doubt, flagging self-esteem, and a general sense of unhappiness with ourselves, and by extension, with life.

It’s really hard to give your all to your work, to your relationship, to your dreams, to life itself when you think that you’re flawed. No, this isn’t a call to rampant narcissism; the “I'm too sexy for my everything” parade. There is a world of difference between simple acknowledgement of who you are (a very good thing), and believing that you’re somehow better than everyone else on the planet (narcissism, not so good).

You are unique. There never has been someone just like you, ever before in all of time, and there never will be someone just like you, ever again, in all of time. You are truly one of a kind; isn’t it about time you realized how utterly fantastic that is? No one else thinks quite like you, no one else sees the world quite like you, no one else has quite the same combination of skills and talents as you.

Which means no one can respond to life quite the way you do.

I just read a phenomenal article about Blake Pyron, a 19-year-old young man with Down Syndrome, who is about to open a snow cone shop, making him the youngest business owner in Sanger, Texas. If all Blake dwelled upon were what some would call his flaws, if he refused to be the unique individual he is, he would never have embarked on such a venture.

So, get a grip. On your uniqueness. On those skills, talents, quirky ideas, whatever it is that you can harness in the service of your wonderful life.

Be like Blake, who ignores his Down Syndrome, and simply forges on to manifest his dream. Ignore your fat/skinny/too short/too tall, pimply, crows nested, hair-losing self, and get your fabulous self in gear.

Your life will thank you!

Author's Bio: 

Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, relationship expert, popular speaker in the U.S. and abroad, and author of over a dozen best-selling books. Dr. Nelson focuses on how we can all enjoy happy, fulfilling lives while accomplishing great things in love, at home and at work, as we appreciate ourselves, our world and all others. She is the author of “Happy Healthy…Dead: Why What You Think You Know About Aging Is Wrong and How To Get It Right” (MindLab Publishing) Visit www.noellenelson.com, http://anotefromdrnoelle.blogspot.com, https://www.facebook.com/Dr.NoelleNelson, @drnoellenelson