Many times we tend to focus on the differences between us—and that causes all sorts of problems. If we focused on how much we have in common, it would be easier to understand each other and have compassion.

The Dalai Lama said it so well when he stated we are humans sharing an experience on this planet. We all have problems in our lives. We all have 24 hours in a day. We all can smile, laugh, cry, and get hurt. It’s all a part of this experience and that’s what makes us human.

Help Others
When you are going through a tough time, it can be easy to feel sorry for yourself. Feeling like a victim is one of the worst ways to react because it will keep you feeling powerless. The best way out of that sand trap is to help others. When you can do something nice for someone else, you are creating good energy and will bring good things into your life.

EVERYONE goes through difficult times and if you can help someone else, it will make you feel good about yourself. When you help others, you will often realize that someone else has it harder than you. Realizing this helps you reach a place of gratitude and that will raise your energy vibration.

The Law of Giving is one of the foundational Universal laws that states what you give you will receive. My husband Sergio often says “sharing is having more”. The best way to improve your life, to grow your business, to find the love of your life, to feel good about yourself… is to give. There is a part of giving that a lot of people overlook though. And that is receiving.

Allow People to Help You
Just as important helping others is, allowing others to help you is equally as important.

In any crisis, it is essential to have a support network of people who love you and can be there for you as you need them. Whether friends, family, counselors, spiritual advisors, mentors, support groups or anyone new the Universe may bring into your life to help you through a tough time, learn to rely on others and accept their help.

We are not meant to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders by ourselves. Just having someone you can talk to, someone who will listen to YOU, will give you a feeling of not being alone and give you someone to lean on. We are social beings and need people to love and care for each other.

It can be hard to accept help at times but I believe it is essential for our own well being to get the support and help we need. The Law of Giving is cyclical and the other half of that cycle is receiving. So be open to receiving the help, the support, the friendship, and the gifts that are waiting for you when you allow them to come into your life and accept them gracefully.

It is our nature to want to love and be loved—not just romantically, but as a species. The more we accept this and embrace it, the easier it will be for us to get through those difficult times. We are stronger when we support each other. And when we are helping others, or allowing others to help us, it cushions those rough bumps in the road.

Author's Bio: 

Karin Volo is an expert in career and personal development and is known as a Tough Transition Specialist and Dream Life Mentor. Working with entrepreneurs to international organizations, she has gained a broad business viewpoint and has helped hundreds of individuals discover their dream jobs. The common thread with her clients has been that they are experiencing a transition. Her clients say she is professional, inspiring, dedicated, efficient, persistent, and determined. Karin’s passion is helping people better their lives and her purpose is to inspire and teach others to thrive through tough times to discover and create their dream lives.

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