So, you’ve been trying out the law of attraction and it just isn’t working for you. You are wondering, “What’s going on? Why is it taking so long?” You begin to think this stuff just doesn’t work, or maybe it does for other people, but somehow you’re special and it just doesn’t work for you.

Here is one area you might explore.

When you get together with friends or even when you listen to the self-talk in your own head, what story do you notice you are telling about your life or circumstances? Are you focused on your clear, bright vision of your ideal life? Are you feeling it and speaking of it as though it is already here? Are you feeling the essence of why you want it?

Or–are you rehashing the past or stressing about the future? Are you complaining, coming up with all the reasons why you can’t have what you want? Do you subscribe to the misery loves company club? When people ask how you are, what do you tell them?

Chances are, it’s some combination of both. The more you tell the story of lack, however, the S…L…O…W….E…R your manifestation will be in arriving. If you listen to most conversations, people are chatting away about who did what to whom and how bad the economy is, how the government is corrupt and what awful thing their neighbor (spouse, mother, sibling, etc.) just did. Sometimes it feels that in order to fit in, we need to be telling our tale of woe. Don’t fall for it! Where you choose to place your attention will determine what you are a vibrational match to. You can be the example and set the tone. Shift the conversation to something pleasant or move away from it. Look for the positive aspects of a situation or person. You have the power to place your attention where you want.

And here’s another interesting fact: Scientist have discovered that just five minutes of complaining will lower your immune system for the next six hours!

So What Can You Do?

It can be a challenge to speak as if you have already manifested something that is not here yet–the dream career or business, the ideal relationship, financial success, maximum fitness, whatever you see as your ideal life. We are taught to be “honest” about what is going on. But it really isn’t necessary to tell the story of what is current in your life if your situation is one you don’t want. What you are experiencing as your reality in the present is simply the result of what you had been thinking and giving energy to in the past. The more you focus on something the more you recreate it and the bigger it gets. The story it would benefit you to tell is your vibrational reality.

The key here is remember the essence of why you want it. How do you expect to feel when it is here in all its glory? Sit with that in a quiet time and really get touch with that feeling. Do you think you will feel a sense of aliveness, freedom, self-esteem? Have you ever felt that way in your life before? Remember that feeling and bring it into your body. Where do you feel it? What are some things you could do right now to create that feeling? WHY do you want it? What function will it serve in your life? Can your needs be met in some other way? Be open to how what you want will come to you. Write down your new story and see how it feels to stretch it beyond what you thought you could have.

When you practice getting into vibrational alignment with how you expect to feel–like you are “wearing” the vibration of what you want, then your manifestation will happen more quickly. Daily practice is key. With practice, you will be able to bring that feeling up in an instant, no matter what else is going on around you.

Now that you are practicing your new story, you are creating a new future. And when people ask you how you are doing, you can honestly answer from that practiced place of feeling. When they ask, “How’s business?” you can say, “It’s getting better and better!”

Author's Bio: 

Known as America's Life Purpose Coach™, Estra Roell is a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach and PSYCH-K® facilitator. Her passion is in helping people gain clarity on their passions and purpose and empowering them to move into inspired action to reach their goals using a variety of powerful processes. Estra is also the creator of an online coaching program Living on Purpose: 12 Steps to Loving Monday Morning and a co-author of the book, 101 Great Ways to Enhance Your Career. Estra has been a featured guest on radio shows and is the co-host of her own internet radio show,
Coach Cafe
, on Blogtalk Radio. She believes we all have what it takes to live purposefully and create the lives we want.

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