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- ***Being a Man of Inaction - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.We just finished another bootcamp for men in Chicago and are about to head to New York City for another one for men this friday-saturday, and I have to tell you how one thing strikes me: so often, men think that they have to be perfect in so many ways - perfect at their dating skills, finding ...
Views: 4321(3 votes) - ***From Boys of Violence to Men of Steel - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.The divide between boy-thinking and mature male thinking is deep but narrow. Learn how destructive behavior can be turned to the power to build a career, a romance, and a life... Many of you have discovered the unprecedented value in the entirely FREE, Do It Yourself Dating and Attraction ...
Views: 3185 - ***Death as a Masculine Power - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2012 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.What does the death of a male mentor mean for your own identity as a man? The funeral I am driving to, is that of Dr. G. Alec Stewart, a prominent physicist, and Dean of the Honors College where I went to school. In fact, it was his idea to even have an Honors College. To me, he was THE ...
Views: 2453 - ***Getting Over Her Rapidly! - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.It's the age-old problem universal to all men. They may be already physically free of the wrong woman for them, whether they were the one to do the breaking up or vice versa. But... They are still impaired by her, ruled by her, whether still in contact from a few days ago and either obsessed ...
Views: 3666 - ***The Social Injection Exercise - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.The advantages of the exercise that you are about to learn, for free, will be: 1. You will meet more women, or have a richer connection to the one you're with. 2. You will get a new career direction, resources, and guidance, or inject your current career with all new ideas, teammates, and ...
Views: 3001 - ***The "Five Shoes" of Forgiving a Woman (and Being Forgiven) - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.We usually hear about the importance of resolving arguments with empathy and perspective for the other person described as "there are two sides to every coin," or "what would it be like if the shoe was on the other foot?" What about thinking about the shoe itself in that metaphor? Today we ...
Views: 3150 - ***The Power of the "Underdog" Male - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.If you have ever been beaten down by life, rejected by a woman, fired, laid off, divorced, struck with a health problem, or some other challenge of life as a man - then you need to know THIS... Some of you may have seen the film, Invictus, with Morgan Freeman and Matt Damon, but like me, you ...
Views: 2849 - ***The One Universal Flaw, Excuse and Game-Changer in Dating - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Maybe you are a guy who has been searching for "that one thing" you could change to have better attraction and dating with women. It turns out that there is one amazing skill you have, which we could lock eyes on as a universal concept that ultimately makes you sink or swim with ...
Views: 4421(2 votes) - ***Do Talk To Strangers - The Power of Projection in Dating - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.The most impassioned, powerful time of a physical interaction with a woman is early on in dating, when you don't even know each other as more than strangers. Ironically, it is also the most fickle, fragile, and potentially confusing time - one of missteps and miscommunication because it is so ...
Views: 4366(1 vote) - ***Levels of Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.It's something so subtle that most men don't know it's there, but it's at the top of the mind and of highest concern to women: the "intimacy" part of physical intimacy. Men would generally rather ponder the aspects of the "physical" part of course, but some attention to what's going on between ...
Views: 4396 - ***How to Deal With a Woman Who Can't Celebrate or Be Thankful - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Here are your missions of the week: We recognize that the three areas of a man's life which masculinize him, and make him feel most alive, vital and attractive are Work, Women, and Being a Man. At Men's Psychology Magazine we are not just about ideas and talk. We are about you taking the ...
Views: 2124 - ***Decades of Women - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.We often lump women together into one group; as if they were all cut from the same cloth. While to a certain extent, it is possible that feminine instincts are uniform across demographic boundaries: the desire for resources, the desire for friendship or belonging to a group with focus, the ...
Views: 2736 - ***The World's Greatest Invention - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Many men I know are unhappy and are completely lost. It sounds dramatic, but many men feel like they’re living in a plagued society burdened with disease. Infected and looking to the heavens, they need answers to prayers that aren’t heard. Most men are not even sure why they feel the way they ...
Views: 4095 - ***The Number One Sexual Attractor - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Recently, I came across some stunning actual scientific findings from evolutionary psychology regarding a man’s ability to attract and date quality women who are right for them. After all, men worldwide want to find what works for them to become more accomplished in this area; to actually have ...
Views: 4234(1 vote) - ***The Universal Responses to Women's Tests - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.I would grab women's attention usually with my height and the wide and varied things I've done with my life, even at a young age. They would let me know indirectly - moving differently than for other men in the vicinity, trying to label me, whether it was as a nice guy, a player, a charmer, a ...
Views: 2629(1 vote) - ***Masculine Intelligence™ in Breaking Up - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.There's never a good time for it, never a right time or place, and it usually doesn't feel right at all. For some men, breaking up seems to be easy to do, but if we get honest with ourselves, those guys are few and far between. Sometimes those men don't realize that the relationship really ...
Views: 3615 - ***The 5 Women Who Will Ruin Your Game - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.They are the bane of your social life - ruining your best efforts at attracting women. And they may not even know they're doing it. Of course you know who I'm talking about, even though we tend not to complain about it or mention it to others - especially women. Especially THOSE women. Why ...
Views: 8677(3 votes) - ***Machiavelli’s 4 Universal Dating Tips for Men - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Machiavelli and his book, The Prince, may be among the most notorious and derided authors and works in history - attacked by the church from day one, and to this day, synonymous with deception and cloak-dagger-politics, espionage and subversive trickery. A closer read may reveal something ...
Views: 7023(1 vote) - ***SEX AS A SOCIAL CURRENCY - by Submitted on May 18, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Sex is a social currency. It's pleasurable, and it's emotional, which are the criteria we human beings often use to judge the value of something. Has a woman ever asked, "How much do you value me, really?" Remember your first old junker car that you bought for, perhaps, $500? The car transported ...
Views: 6381(4 votes) - ***Are You a "Badboy?" Or "The Life of the Party?" - by Submitted on May 10, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.It's no surprise that women respond to bad boys. They complain about doing so, try to stop themselves from doing so, ban themselves from dating them and swear they will never do so again... but sometimes to a fault they do so anyway. At my company, we know why - and the reason is in having ...
Views: 4555(2 votes) - ***DEPRESCULINITY: THE NEW TYPE OF DEPRESSION IN MEN - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.You always knew there ought to be a name for it - the state of mind suffered only by men, related to women and or work... and not be fully living. I have a word to coin. One that's likely been in your life at some point, if only for a day, or a week, or a month. It blocked your ability to ...
Views: 6379(3 votes) - ***Why Do Women Like Players? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.It’s often asked to me why women like Jerks, Badboys, and Players, and while I teach that much of the reason rests in the fact that to the brain, arousal due to danger and threats can be easily confused with arousal due to sexual appeal, there is a bit of a difference between a guy who is a ...
Views: 10363(5 votes) - ***How Do I Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.You don’t. I’m sorry, but no matter who you are, who she is, and how many crazy skills in dating you have learned, you will never. ever get back that particular person. Why? It’s been programmed into us since the dawn of time, and it’s called COURTSHIP. There’s an actual set of ...
Views: 4130(3 votes) - ***Why Do Women Go Out With Jerks? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Women go out with jerks because of reasons you would not suspect. None of them are logical. None of them are “right” or “fair” in a fair world. It is unfair that sexual attraction and dating are “unfair” once you learn the nature of human instincts between the genders. The reason that they ...
Views: 3478(10 votes) - ***What To Do On A First Date With A Woman - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.A first date with a woman had better not be the only date on your social horizon. Get that straight right from the beginning. I don’t care if you are short, fat, bald, “ugly,” haven’t ever played a guitar or rode a motorcycle. I don’t even care if you can’t dance, have a small penis, and ...
Views: 3209(9 votes) - ***How To Ask A Woman Out - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.The best situation is of course, for a woman to ask YOU out, but that presents a different set of challenges than those around how you’re going to “get up the nerve,” whether or not she is already with someone else, or any other manner of concerns you may have that prevent you form what comes ...
Views: 2917(2 votes) - ***How To Get A Woman's Number - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Under most circumstances with a woman, it’s utterly fruitless to get a woman’s number if she is a.) not sexually attracted b.) not friendly or feel a sense of fun or friendship from you, or c.) not a good match for you intellectually, in maturity, culture or tastes. Why would you even bother? Or ...
Views: 3252(2 votes) - ***How To Know If A Woman Likes You - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.A woman likes you if she looks at you, if she talks to you and lets you talk, if she touches you or lets you touch her, and certainly if she kisses you or has sex with you. You see, there are DEGREES to “liking” and a DURATION to how long and how much you are “liked.” Through this all there ...
Views: 4411(3 votes) - ***How To Meet Women - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.How to meet women is a different subject than where to meet women, and WHETHER you will meet women at all. Do you have particular goals with women? Or in the skill to meet them? Do you know what you even want in a woman? Or in what you will share with her? Do you want casual dating? Or a serious ...
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