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- Emotions: Do Emotions Have A Purpose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years there has been increased awareness around emotions. Before all of this came about, IQ (Intelligence quotient) was seen as the most important factor in deciding how intelligent someone is and in how there life would play out. This was until EQ (Emotional Intelligence Quotient) ...
Views: 2614 - Abused Children: Why Do Abused Children Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough the title refers to abused children, this article will primarily look at why some adults, who were abused as children, grow up to deny what happened to them. Individuals that were abused in their childhood by their parents or caregivers often find it hard to look at and admit to what ...
Views: 3723 - Healthy And Unhealthy Guilt: What's The Difference? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are two types of guilt that an individual can experience; one can be classed as healthy and the other as unhealthy. And like all feelings, there is usually a reason when guilt appears. Now, the reason for guilt appearing could be functional and beneficial to one’s life or it could be ...
Views: 6500 - Emotional Needs: Can Another Person Fulfil Our Emotional Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one looks for a relationship, there are emotional needs that one is looking for another person to fulfil within them. These needs can be conscious and known, and they can be unconscious and unknown. And some of these needs will be possible for another person to fulfil and meet and some ...
Views: 2369 - Abusive Parents: Why Do They Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperParents that are abusive often deny that the abuse has ever taken place. And if it is not denied, then it may even be minimized. Both of these actions can have devastating consequences on the lives of those that were abused. So here I want to take a closer look at why parents deny or minimize ...
Views: 5615 - False Self: What Is The False Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of psychology and self realisation there are two terms that are often mentioned. And these are known as the true self and the false self. One usually comes to understand what is true about oneself, as a consequence of becoming aware of what is not true. By seeing the contrast or ...
Views: 2215 - The Heart: Why Is It Hard To Listen To Our Heart? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the primary focus is on the intelligence and knowledge of the ego mind; the heart is often ignored and dismissed. It’s only in the recent years that it has been considered by the mainstream as anything other than just an organ. So here I will give my current opinion on why ...
Views: 1772 - Self Sabotage: What Is Self Sabotage? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is something that is known as self sabotage and what this actually means may not be clear to many people. So let’s look at what the word sabotage means first. On the dictionary.com website sabotage is described as: any underhand interference with production, work, etc., in a plant, ...
Views: 2163 - Controlling Relationships: Why Are Some Men Controlling? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperA common relationship problem in today’s world and one that has been around for many years is control. The form that this behaviour takes may have changed over the ages, but the results are still the same. What is also clear to see is that both men and women can be controlling. However, here ...
Views: 18824 - Family: Are Family A Gift Or A Curse? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some families in the world that are filled with love and connection. These families’ work together, to support and assist each other and not because they have to; but because they want to. To them, family means much more than just a word or the DNA that may connect them to each ...
Views: 2143 - Religion: Why Are People Attracted To Religion? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous religions in the world today; some of these have been around for thousands of years and some could be described as new in comparison. And as well as the religions that are clearly definable as religions, there are also other figures and establishments that are serving a very ...
Views: 4984 - The Mainstream Media: Where Perspectives Become Truths - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the challenges I have with the mainstream media, is that what is shown is largely portrayed as the truth. It could be said, that all forms of critical thinking are gradually eroded by exposing ourselves to it. Of course, it could be argued that it is down to the individual to use their ...
Views: 1982 - Defence Mechanism: Escapism - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is another of the defence mechanism that all of the others could be said to come under. Any one of the myriad of Defence mechanism comes under the purpose of escaping our current sense of dissonance, with the aim of removing the uncertainty and into a more familiar (safer) place, regardless ...
Views: 4269 - Relationships: What Is Our Most Important Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperDuring our lives we can have many relationships and some of these relationships can last for what feels like moments and others can seem to last a lifetime. It could be greeting someone we might never see again or embracing someone we will see many times. These relationships can range from a ...
Views: 1879 - Healing: How Does Healing Work? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMy current outlook to healing and processing is that, along with the individual's willingness to process their past, the other important element to releasing our patterns is to be assisted by someone who has achieved a certain level of presence. And that the processing (healing) technique alone ...
Views: 2102 - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Reveal Our True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRevealing who one is to others is not always easy and I believe that this can be due to two reasons. Firstly this can come about through not knowing who one is and secondly through the feeling that it is not safe for one to reveal who one is. Both of these reasons can be the result of ones ...
Views: 2048 - Sugar Free Culture: Creating the Illusion Of ZERO Consequences - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now different companies have removed sugar from their products and replaced it with other alternate forms of sweeteners. One of the products that are often used is aspartame. This is an artificial sweetener that has been found to be not only unhealthy, but also ...
Views: 1692 - Defence Mechanism: Repression - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRepression, as I see it, is denying a situation of any expression or exposure, until it has gone from our awareness or rarely takes up too much of our attention. This can be brought about in two ways, which depend on the subjective severity of the experience. The first one is by the use of ...
Views: 2118 - Entitlement Mentality: What Created It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s society there is a common mentality and this mentality is often called - The Entitlement Mentality. On the dictionary.com website this is described as: The fact of having a right to something and the amount to which a person has a right. So what this means is that one has the right ...
Views: 13140 - Defense Mechanism: Dissociation - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperDissociation is the result of trauma we have experienced in our life. And by dissociating from the intensity of the trauma, we can minimize the suffering caused. With these experiences being subjective in nature and usually extremely overwhelming for the individual, they may however seem ...
Views: 4019 - The Matrix: What Is The Matrix? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the words ‘The Matrix’ are mentioned the first thing that comes to mind is probably the film by the same name. And this was a film that had a profound influence on many people. This was not only because of the quality of the film, but also because of the questions it made people ask and ...
Views: 1911 - Defence Mechanism: Projection - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMost of us have heard of the term projection, but what is our subjective meaning when we think about it?. It could be argued that our whole experience of reality is a projection and that all of the Ego defence mechanisms are a projection, but for now I will remain in this context. I believe the ...
Views: 2346 - Power: How Do We Give Our Power Away? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor each one of us power can mean something different. It can have both positive and negative connotations. On the positive side, there is the power to have an effect on one’s life and on the negative side it can mean being controlled. The meaning of power here is; the ability to have an ...
Views: 2324 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Cheat? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing why some people cheat, it is certainly not a black and white answer. So based on my current level of awareness and intelligence; I will do my best to give some answers to this question. Three Experiences I believe that in order to understand or at least try to ...
Views: 2285 - Self Realisation: The Journey One Must Take Alone - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperSelf Realisation: The Journey One Must Take Alone I believe that the journey one embarks on to understand who and what they are; is one that could be classed as an individual journey. There will of course be many people who one encounters during this journey. And the amount of time that ...
Views: 3168(1 vote) - Emotional Masks: What Is An Emotional Mask? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word mask is described as: an object normally worn on the face, typically for protection, disguise, performance or entertainment. Emotional Mask However, the mask that I am talking about here is an emotional mask. This can effect: how one sees themselves in the mirror; how one believes ...
Views: 11226 - Controlling Mothers: Why Are Some Mothers Controlling? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that to some degree all mothers are controlling and that they have to be. From the very beginning a child has to have the right discipline and guidance to develop. However, what happens when this control is taken to the extreme and the child is taken advantage of? A ...
Views: 4755(1 vote) - Toxic Shame: What Is Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is said to be two types of shame. One is described as normal and healthy and the other is said to be abnormal and dysfunctional. Healthy Shame This shame is part of having a healthy conscience; with certain behaviours and actions being kept in check by this feeling. And when ones ...
Views: 4198(2 votes) - Celebrities: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Celebrities? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some time I have been reflecting on and thinking about what causes the obsession with celebrities. So here is my current outlook on what I believe is going on. Today's Society In today's society celebrities are often worshiped and are objects of obsession for many people. And it ...
Views: 13526 - Self Realisation: Running And The Journey - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt occurred to me how running is a great metaphor when it comes to the journey of removing the images and projections we have of reality and seeing reality for what it truly is. Something that can also seem to be, two steps forward and one step back at times. When we first start running it ...
Views: 1972 - Perfection: Are We Perfect As We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI recently had a dream and in that dream there was a situation where I paid 60 pounds for this diamond shaped stone. I was then told how it would be worth more if I got it valued. So once I had bought it I went to a jeweller to see if it was actually worth more or if I had just been taken for a ...
Views: 2013 - Relationships: What Is The Purpose Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI believe that one of the purposes of a relationship is to lead one back into wholeness. This includes the relationships we have had, the relationships we have and the relationships we will have in the future. They each contain the experiences and situations that are perfect for one to regain ...
Views: 2567 - Chronicle: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing about this film through a friend, I thought it sounded similar to a number of other films that have been released in recent years. The films Push and Jumper came to mind. Now that I have seen the film I believe that it is a metaphor for intention and how intention is what ...
Views: 2086 - The Iron Lady: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt wasn't until after I had seen the trailer that I become interested in watching this film. I didn't know much about Margaret Thatcher (Not that this film can be completely trusted in its portrayal of her), but what I did know is that this looked to be a powerful film. The films tagline 'never ...
Views: 2234 - Black Swan: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first heard about this film I was intrigued by the story line. And after Natalie Portman had won an Oscar for her role, I thought it must be worth watching. It is directed by Darren Aronofsky, who directed The Wrestler and numerous other films. After watching this film I was amazed and ...
Views: 3037 - The Adjustment Bureau: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMy interest in this film came about after hearing that it was based on a short story by Philip K. Dick. Blade runner, Next, Minority Report and Total Recall are just a few of the films that have been based on his stories. The storyline 'Do we control our destiny, or do unseen forces manipulate ...
Views: 2496 - 127 Hours: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat motivated me to see this was the fact that Danny Boyle was directing it, with it being his first film since Slum Dog Millionaire. After this I heard that it was based on a true story. The story is about a climber, who in order to survive, has to lose his own arm. While I was watching it ...
Views: 3085 - TRON: Legacy: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I heard that the film was all about taking down the master control system I was instantly intrigued. Although I hadn't seen the first film I went with friends to see what it was all about. And with it being in Disney Digital 3D, I had a feeling it was going to be good. And after watching ...
Views: 2214 - Racism: What Causes Racism? - by Submitted on May 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time of extreme exposure and this exposure is no longer limited to the old ways of reporting; where radio, news papers or the Television were the primary ways. There is now Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and many other ways that allow for current events to be exposed and for individuals ...
Views: 7850 - Responsibility: The Taboo Of Responsibility - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article might seem out of place and even slightly unnecessary. You might be wondering how a word of such meaning, can be used to describe something as normal as responsibility. There might also be the chance of your thoughts being along the same lines as what I am about to ...
Views: 2053 - Love Or Control: What Would You Choose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s relationships what is often classed as love is nothing more than control. The desire to control another person and their behaviour then becomes more important than it is to love and honour the other person. The question is: what would make a person want to control another? If they ...
Views: 1861 - The Inner Child: Why Is It Important To Heal The Inner Child? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘inner child’ is not something that can be easily understood. It is somewhat hard to relate to and even harder to be taken seriously. So then; what is the inner child? I see the inner child as a combination of childhood memories and these appear to primarily exist just above the ...
Views: 1255 - Invalidation: The Abused Childs Greatest Pain - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be validated as a child is highly important in creating a functional and psychologically healthy adult. When this validation is not received and a child is invalidated, it can lead to all kinds of problems If a child is abused in some way, one of the most important things, if not the most ...
Views: 2270 - Abusive Parents: Why Do Some Parents Abuse Their Children? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive parenting if often something that goes on covertly in our society. To the outsider it might not even be noticed. With how a family or parent presents themselves to the outside world being the complete opposite of how they our behind closed doors. These people can hold positions of ...
Views: 2851(3 votes) - Abuse: What Causes Abuse? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be difficult to describe what abuse is and this is because the word ‘Abuse’ can mean different things to different people. For one person it might relate to emotional pain, for another it might involve physical pain. With there being different degrees of pain and hurt within these two ...
Views: 2133 - Intimacy: What Causes The Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIntimacy can mean different things to different people. It is a word that has numerous meanings and interpretations. The meaning I am going to be looking at here is closeness. Although closeness is usually experienced in relationships of the opposite sex, it can be experienced in any ...
Views: 6649 - Instant Gratification Culture: What Created It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘instant gratification’ is widely known and widely used in today’s society. Having something tomorrow or having to wait any longer than now, is often far too long in today’s culture. Instant gratification can be observed throughout all ages and in numerous situations, it is not ...
Views: 7316 - Our Story: What Roles Are We Playing In Our Story? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOur story is all that we have experienced up until his point, all that we are experiencing at this moment and all that we will experience in the future. And part of what makes up our story is the roles that we play. However, these are roles that might not even seem like roles, they can appear ...
Views: 1740 - Relationships: What Roles Are We Playing In Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat I am referring to by the term ‘roles’ is the way one behaves in the relationships in their life. So with the description out of the way, the first question is; what causes one to behave as they do in relationships when their behaviour is dysfunctional and disempowering and doesn’t lead to ...
Views: 2582 - Our Story: Is Our Story Who We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe all have a story to tell, no matter who we are or where we’re from; a story that reminds us of a past that can never be forgotten. This is a story can define one’s life; one that contains the potential to create a life that is a reaction to the story or a life inspired and motivated by ...
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