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- Fantasies that Lead to Relapse - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2012 from Tim GrayI have worked with several hundred alcoholics and addicts since 1989 when I first worked in this field. In all that time I have come to the conclusion that one of the most dangerous things that leads to relapse is fantasies of “controlled use.” I have talked with addicts of all shapes and ...
Views: 2691(2 votes) - Talk With Someone About Your Feelings - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2012 from Tim GrayLearning how to deal with extreme emotions such as anxiety, anger, fear, sadness, and many more, is very important in preventing relapse. Here is an excerpt from my book Handling Stress and Anxiety. Talking with someone else about our feelings is a fundamental need we have as humans. We ...
Views: 1641(2 votes) - The Danger of Doing Well - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2012 from Tim GrayDid you know there is danger in doing well in recovery? This comes as a surprise to many people in recovery. So, you are probably wondering how doing well in recovery could possibly lead to problems. Here are some situations for you to consider: Many people stop doing everything the program ...
Views: 2445(2 votes) - What to Do About Tactics to Avoid Accountability - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2011 from Tim GrayI started this article as a reply to a question related to these two articles: * Tactics Used to Avoid Accountability 1 * Tactics Used to Avoid Accountability 2 There are more tactics coming in the near future. Here is the Question. "So when we notice these things in a ...
Views: 3450(2 votes) - Tactics Used by Addicted People to Avoid Accountability 2 - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2010 from Tim GrayThis is the second post in the series of tactics used by addicts and alcoholics to avoid accountability. Accountability is necessary for all of us. People in recovery need to do everything in their power to remain accountable—this will help them deal with temptations and triggers when they ...
Views: 3450(2 votes) - Tactics Used by Addicted People to Avoid Accountability 1 - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2010 from Tim GrayThere are many ways people with addictions avoid accountability. Here is the first of several articles discussing these tactics. These tactics are what addicts and alcoholics use to to take the focus off them and continue doing what their addiction wants them to do. These tactics are used by ...
Views: 5442(2 votes) - Work the Program - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2010 from Tim GrayI think one of the main reasons people relapse is they stop working their program of recovery. In my years as an addictions counselor I have heard it over and over again when I ask what led up to a relapse…”I quit working the program.” There are many ways you can quit working the program. ...
Views: 1936(2 votes) - Check List – 9 Things that Lead to Relapse - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Tim GrayRelapse prevention is an ongoing requirement to maintain recovery. Some will say that you will get to a place in recovery where you don’t need to “work at it” anymore—that it becomes automatic. I have known a few people who seemed to put down their drug or behavior of choice—what they were ...
Views: 4140(3 votes) - Four Ways We Justify Use - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Tim GrayI am going to share 4 defense mechanisms that are frequently used by people in addiction to justify or substantiate their drug or alcohol use. I’m sure you have heard of some of these—you might have even heard of all of them. I hope to share some insights you may not have considered ...
Views: 4470(3 votes) - 10 Common Dangers in Recovery - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Tim GrayHere are ten common situations that are very dangerous to a person in recovery. Recognizing these dangers will help you avoid a possible problem in the future. 1. Believing you are finally cured of your addiction. This is a dangerous form of denial. The lie is that you either are finally ...
Views: 2756(3 votes) - Are You Addicted? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Tim GrayAs a substance abuse counselor I have worked with many clients who were on the fence about their addiction. They would have some issues in their life that made then think they were addicted but they would also have some reasons why they couldn't be addicted. I have found it helpful to explore ...
Views: 1762(2 votes) - What Qualities to Look for in a Sponsor - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Tim GrayHere are some qualities to look for in a sponsor. I have set the standard high since this is a very important relationship for you and your recovery. You may not be able to find someone with all the qualities I suggest due to many factors including the size of your town, number of people who ...
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