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- The Big Three Gap Closers - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2024 from William CottringerThe Big Three Gap Closers by Bill Cottringer Building on what we have in common always seems to be more productive than over-focusing on the sometimes annoying, noisy and irritating differences we have between us. Two early psychologists gave us some important clues about what we all ...
Views: 31 - The Spiritual Split - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2024 from William CottringerThe Spiritual Split By Bill Cottringer “Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha. One such truth is the awesome power of threes. Just consider the influence of the threes in pyramids, the Christian trinity, colors of traffic lights, a tri-fold ...
Views: 66 - Ten Sensible Problem-Solving Strategies From the Trenches - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2024 from William CottringerTen Sensible Problem-Solving Strategies From the Trenches by Bill Cottringer Life is a series of problem-solving opportunities. The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you depending on how you respond to them. ~Rick Warren. Life presents us with three different sets ...
Views: 70 - The Two Problems of Problem-Solving - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2024 from William CottringerThe Two Problems of Problem-Solving by Bill Cottringer If I had only one hour to save the world, I would spend fifty-five minutes defining the problem, and only five minutes finding the solution. ~Albert Einstein. All the problems we are challenged to solve arise from three main ...
Views: 72 - Four Main Perspectives in the Game of Life - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from William CottringerFour Main Perspectives in the Game of Life By Bill Cottringer The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective. ~Al Neuharth. Heroes, Villains, Victims and Bystanders There are only four choices, For all the unheard voices: Be an honorable hero, And gain ...
Views: 68 - SEEING THE REAL ENEMY - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2024 from William CottringerSEEING THE REAL ENEMY By Bill Cottringer It pays to know the enemy - not least because at some time you may have the opportunity to turn him into a friend. ~Margaret Thatcher. The real enemy is not a person, group, country, or thing that we can easily see and fight against, but ...
Views: 84 - Better Success with More Failure - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2024 from William CottringerBetter Success with More Failure by Bill Cottringer It is not the things in life that bothers us, but rather our opinions about these things. ~Epictetus. Like efficient government, this title seems somewhat like an oxymoron. Well, I certainly didn’t come up with the idea because ...
Views: 105 - A Sensible Spiritual Viewpoint to Seriously Consider - by Submitted on May 26, 2024 from William CottringerA Sensible Spiritual Viewpoint to Seriously Consider By William Cottringer, Ph.D. A viewpoint is the convenient way the brain efficiently gathers all the various thoughts and feelings we get from our experiences in life and from interacting with other people, that cumulatively make up ...
Views: 148 - Several Sound Sources of Happiness - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2024 from William CottringerSeveral Sound Sources of Happiness By Bill Cottringer Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. ~Mahatma Gandhi. Unhappiness is easy to have, but having authentic happiness is one of life’s greatest challenges because of the many adversities ...
Views: 160 - BELIEFS & BEHAVIOR - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2024 from William CottringerBELIEFS & BEHAVIOR by William Cottringer, Ph.D. You never know how much you really believe anything until its truth or falsehood becomes a matter of life and death to you. ~C.S. Lewis. Beliefs are what drive our behaviors, but not all by themselves. They get much help from two ...
Views: 164 - Ten Essential Elements of Violence Trauma Recovery - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2024 from William CottringerTen Essential Elements of Violence Trauma Recovery by William Cottringer Ph.D. There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. ~Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral's Kiss. Building Blocks (the basement). 1. Supportive ...
Views: 199 - Enemies of Truth - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2024 from William CottringerEnemies of Truth by William Cottringer, Ph.D. Truth is like the beauty of a great sculpture—all that is left when you can’t take away, add, or change anything more. ~Anonymous. At times there seem to be more enemies of truth than friends. If you are a real truth seeker, here are ...
Views: 212 - Understanding Violence - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2024 from William CottringerUnderstanding Violence By William Cottringer, Ph.D. "Violence in an uncontrollable animal, which usually ends up attacking its own master." ~Renny Yagosesky. There are two main problems standing in the way of understanding violence. One roadblock is that the violence trauma event ...
Views: 210 - In and Out of Ruts - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2024 from William CottringerIn and Out of Ruts by Bill Cottringer “It takes guts to get out of the ruts.” ~Robert H. Schuller. First of all, here are the two main elements of a “rut” that can help us arrive at a common understanding of what we are talking about here. • Being somewhere where you don’t want ...
Views: 219 - Navigating Conflicts Successfully - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2024 from William CottringerNavigating Conflicts Successfully by Bill Cottringer Conflicts are an inevitable part of life and when they are not resolved, they often come back with increased velocity and vengeance to take a bigger bite from a part of the anatomy that really hurts. ~The author. Conflicts ...
Views: 218 - Life’s Ground Rules - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2024 from William CottringerLife’s Ground Rules by Bill Cottringer Reality is the composite of the a priori laws of the universe which are left over from when we strip away all the perceptions, beliefs, interpretations, and assumptions that have been made. ~ The author. There are a few a priori ground rules ...
Views: 230 - Seven Learning Lessons from Failures - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2024 from William CottringerSeven Learning Lessons from Failures "Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts." ~Winston S. Churchill. The evolution of psychology tells us a lot about what needs to be studied. The first theories in psychology focused on ...
Views: 223 - The Success Team Formula Within - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2023 from William CottringerThe Success Team Formula Within By Bill Cottringer Effective teamwork between quality thinking, healthy emotionality, disciplined behavior, and spiritual intelligence invariably results in long-term success, along with authentic happiness, genuine peace of mind, and inherent satisfaction. ...
Views: 259 - The Path from Nobody to Somebody - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2023 from William CottringerThe Path from Nobody to Somebody by Bill Cottringer "Be a somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody." ~anonymous. Sometimes without being aware of it, or at least not fully knowing the details, we are all searching for a path to help us go from being a nobody to become a ...
Views: 292 - GAP-CLOSING - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2023 from William CottringerGAP-CLOSING By Bill Cottringer Life is all the stuff that happens in between acknowledging our gaps and trying to deal with them. ~The author. We are all confronted with problem gaps than need closing solutions in life. The differences are in the nature and priority of these gaps ...
Views: 297 - Be a Winner of the Conflict Trifecta - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2023 from William CottringerBe a Winner of the Conflict Trifecta By Bill Cottringer Conflict is the beginning of consciousness. ~M. Esther Harding. There are three main types of conflicts—against life, between others, and within ourselves—which we all face in trying to get through life and live our own ...
Views: 334 - “P” Point Power - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2023 from William Cottringer“P” Point Power by William Cottringer, Ph.D. Experience is not what happens to you; it's what you do with what happens to you. ~Aldous Huxley. Earlier on in my correctional career, an MIT math genius, Herb Gross, introduced me to an obscure engineering term, which he called ...
Views: 324 - What is Our Basic Nature? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2023 from William CottringerWhat is Our Basic Nature? By Bill Cottringer He who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition, will waste his life in fruitless efforts. ~Samuel Johnson. A turtle was about to enter the water on the edge of a large ...
Views: 356 - Unifying the Divide - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2023 from William CottringerUnifying the Divide by Bill Cottringer A house divided against itself cannot stand. ~Abraham Lincoln. It is ironic that our country, which was founded on rebellion against divisive principles, ended up as a divided house itself starting with slavery and bringing us to today’s Great ...
Views: 342 - The Pursuit of Happiness - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2023 from William CottringerThe Pursuit of Happiness by Bill Cottringer Words can rarely capture the essence of an experience in life, especially common or over-used ones. Oddly though, the way you choose to define things like success, happiness, justice, freedom, and love, can often determine how much or how little ...
Views: 334 - The Tao of Teams - by Submitted on May 10, 2023 from William CottringerThe Tao of Teams by Bill Cottringer “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” ~Helen Keller, activist. Effectiveness and successful results in today’s government, business and non-profit organizations is delivered mostly by effective teams. The Gestalt Principle ...
Views: 393 - Seven Crossroads - by Submitted on May 01, 2023 from William CottringerSeven Crossroads by Bill Cottringer “If you come to a fork in the road, take it.” ~Yogi Berra. Self-consciousness compellingly temps us into falsely believing we have a unique identity as “I, me, and myself,” which is a stand-alone person distinctly separated and different from ...
Views: 364 - A Serious Limitation with Words - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2023 from William CottringerA Serious Limitation with Words by Bill Cottringer “Silence is the language of God, all else is poor translation.” ~Rumi. Ever since being a young acolyte in the Episcopal Church studying the Bible and doing a book report on it for English class in high school, I have always been ...
Views: 356 - Problem-Solving in Our VUCA World - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2023 from William CottringerProblem-Solving in Our VUCA World by Bill Cottringer “I know you think you understand what you thought I said but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” ~Alan Greenspan. The new virtual VUCA world we are part of today requires a new set of problem-solving ...
Views: 326 - Dangers of a Divided Mind - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2023 from William CottringerDangers of a Divided Mind By Bill Cottringer “Warning: A divided mind misses half of everything but deludes you into believing you have the whole truth. So, if you want to get twice as much done in half the time in finding the whole truth, rejoin your divided mind.” ~The Author. I ...
Views: 305 - Two Illusions That Spoil Reality - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2023 from William CottringerTwo Illusions That Spoil Reality by Bill Cottringer “Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” ~Søren Kierkegaard. There are two persistent and compelling illusions that help spoil Kierkegaard’s version of reality. These are: (1) the strongly sensed ...
Views: 382 - The Problem of Our Time - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2023 from William CottringerThe Problem of Our Time By Bill Cottringer “We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.” ~Albert Einstein. So, what is the problem of our time? The problem is that we all sense the pain from a growing monumental problem, but we don’t understand it ...
Views: 360 - Understanding Extreme Behavior - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2023 from William CottringerUnderstanding Extreme Behavior By Bill Cottringer “Human behavior flows from three main sources—desire, emotion, and knowledge.” ~Plato. Is it my imagination or is extreme behavior becoming more commonplace these days? Is the incident rate of extreme behavior actually increasing or ...
Views: 409 - Conflicts and Heartaches - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2023 from William CottringerConflicts and Heartaches by Bill Cottringer “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” ~William Ellery Channing. Conflicts are as much a part of life as change, taxes and death. Heartaches go together with conflicts like grass ...
Views: 370 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 373 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 368 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 360 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 361 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 356 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 327 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 317 - Reality is Not What it Seems - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from William CottringerReality is Not What it Seems by Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with ...
Views: 325 - Peace of Mind - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2023 from William CottringerPeace of Mind by Bill Cottringer “When you've seen beyond yourself, then you may find, peace of mind is waiting there.” ~George Harrison. The amount of peace of mind we have, like happiness, contentment and other states of mind, depends largely on who we define the concept. It may ...
Views: 381 - The Dynamics of Trust - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2023 from William CottringerThe Dynamics of Trust by Bill Cottringer “The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” ~Ernest Hemingway. Trust is an essential ingredient to successful resolution of the three main conflicts which we all must deal with in life: (a) us vs. life (b) us vs. ...
Views: 395 - A Baker’s Dozen Classic Ah-Ha Moments - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2023 from William CottringerA Baker’s Dozen Classic Ah-Ha Moments By Bill Cottringer “We often get the thinking-feeling-behavior sequence mixed up. It is important to understand that it is behaviors and actions, not thinking, that result in our feelings, which in turn often prompt problem behaviors.” ~The author. ...
Views: 394 - Ten Teaching & Training Tricks That Stick - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2022 from William CottringerTen Teaching & Training Tricks That Stick by Bill Cottringer “No one learns as much about a subject as one who is forced to teach it.” ~Peter Drucker. Although Peter Drucker has a good point, having a full bag of teaching and training tricks can certainly help improve the learning ...
Views: 349 - The Wisdom of Insecurity - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2022 from William CottringerThe Wisdom of Insecurity by Bill Cottringer “Uncertainty is the only certainty there is and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” ~John Allen Paulos. I wish I had originally come up with this simple but profound article title, but I have to give full credit to a ...
Views: 410 - Human Capital Leadership Essentials - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2022 from William CottringerHuman Capital Leadership Essentials By Bill Cottringer “Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” ~Jack Welch. If the dreadful COVID-19 pandemic taught the gamut of private business world, ...
Views: 423 - Challenges in Virtual Communication - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from William CottringerChallenges in Virtual Communication by Bill Cottringer “Texting is a brilliant way to miscommunicate how you feel and misinterpret what other people mean.” ~Anonymous. Face to face (f2f) communication itself has many challenges but communicating in the new virtual world surrounding ...
Views: 421 - Spiritual Intelligence - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from William CottringerSpiritual Intelligence by Bill Cottringer “Spiritual Intelligence is seeing past what you are looking at; or better yet, it is seeing the unseeable and knowing the unknown.” The evolution of human intelligence involves using whole-brained intelligence, which is the blending all of ...
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