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- A Moment in Time, an Excerpt from "Being Here…Too, Short Stories of Modern Day Enlightenment," by Ariel and Shya Kane - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2019 from Ariel and Shya KaneMy brother Brian was born a year and a half after I was. My mom told me that when she brought him home from the hospital, I thought he was a gift for me. When we were growing up, Brian seemed to know how to do everything without any help or training. I’d ask him, “How do you know that?” I was ...
Views: 878 - Life Is In the Blintzes, an Excerpt from "Being Here…Too, Short Stories of Modern Day Enlightenment," by Ariel and Shya Kane - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2019 from Ariel and Shya KaneWhen my maternal grandmother, Dora, was a child, she came to America from a tiny village in Eastern Europe. One of my fondest memories of her was that she made amazing blintzes, thin crepe-like pancakes filled with savory cheese. When I was a little boy I’d visit her in the Bronx in New York ...
Views: 1067 - ***I Love Airports! An Excerpt from Practical Enlightenment - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2015 from Ariel and Shya KanePeople were surprised when Kat stood up at one of our seminars and without preamble, enthusiastically announced, “I love airports!” It was a Monday evening in early spring and we had encouraged people to come up to the front of the room and talk about what was happening in their lives. Kat is a ...
Views: 1831(2 votes) - ***Ariel & Shya Kane's Three Tips to Creating a Magical Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Ariel and Shya KaneThis Valentine's Day, couples and individuals are looking to find and/or strengthen their love relationships. As award-winning authors and world-renowned relationship experts, Ariel & Shya Kane have discovered three simple, yet revolutionary tips for creating magical relationships, based on the ...
Views: 1735(1 vote) - ***Everyday Spirituality - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIn this world where technology has eclipsed our humanity, many of us are looking for a way to operate in our lives that fulfills our spiritual nature. People have tried different religions or disciplines with varying degrees of success or failure. They have taken motivational workshops to ...
Views: 2076(11 votes) - ***Inner Peace is an Experience, Not Something You “Know” - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneSerenity, well-being, feeling OK being you, feeling good in your own skin, not having to second guess your choices, trusting that you will do the right thing, these are but a few of the things we have found while working with people that most folks are striving for. People say they want ...
Views: 1697(10 votes) - ***Are You Living Your Life or Are You Just Thinking About It? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneWhat you already "know" is keeping you from discovering what is possible. There is a story about a college professor who is interested in learning about Zen that demonstrates this idea: There once was a college professor who was interested in learning about the study and practice ...
Views: 1767(9 votes) - Being "Right" vs. Being "Alive" - An Excerpt from "How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating and Marriage" - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIn most relationships, an ongoing fight simmers just below the surface. Sometimes the conflict appears subtle but at other times it is outright war. People have grown up in a sea of discord and have been socialized to expect it and accept it. In other words, fighting is "normal." ...
Views: 3209(10 votes) - Stuck in a Moment - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneThis month is the 10th anniversary of the tragedy of 9/11, 2001. Below is the transcript of an interaction we had with a participant at a Monday Night Alive! shortly after those devastating events. As we read it, we felt that that interaction is still appropriate and applicable to the lives of ...
Views: 1644(8 votes) - Gravity: The Greatest Teacher - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneDo you remember when you learned to walk? Of course not. But whether you remember it or not, you had a great teacher: gravity. Gravity is the greatest teacher. It is never angry. It is never frustrated with you when you fall off balance. It is implacable, impartial, relentless, and ...
Views: 1527(7 votes) - A Weekend of Instantaneous Transformation with Ariel & Shya Kane - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneFeatured in the September / October 2009 issue of Kindred Spirit Magazine, the UK's leading mind, body and spirit publication. In spring of 2009 I was sitting in a room with about a hundred other people from across the world who had come to Hamburg, Germany to immerse themselves in ...
Views: 2088(8 votes) - The Embattled Mindset - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneWe were at an appointment at a local business and the owner, Carol, blurted out, "Do you lock your car while you are here?" We replied, "Yes, always." Carol then continued with what was so obviously on her mind. "I don't lock mine and my GPS was stolen from my car. I didn't realize it at ...
Views: 1643(7 votes) - Slowing Down, an excerpt from "Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment" - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIt was a cold sunny day in New Jersey and the first thin layers of ice were forming on our pond. We were scheduled to go to Pilates that day, our private exercise class with a trainer, but we liked doing some cardio workout first. Usually, weather permitting, we would take a walk through town ...
Views: 2246(13 votes) - Pink Rain - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneDid anyone ever say something to you that you found offensive? What did you do: walk away in a huff ... talk back to him or her ... "stand up" for yourself and then feel lousy later? Take the "high road" and feel crummy later? How about lying awake at night, rehearsing all of the better things ...
Views: 1818(10 votes) - The Vagrant Gift - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneAt age 14 I was a willowy little thing with long blonde hair and braces. Not yet old enough to drive, I was grown-up enough to ride the bus from our town of Gresham, Oregon to downtown Portland for my orthodontist appointments. I liked going to Portland - it made me feel worldly and mature. On ...
Views: 2253(12 votes) - When Old Habits Reemerge – Think Peppermint! - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneAre you proud of yourself that you no longer lose your temper, bite your fingernails, or have a messy desk? Perhaps you feel as if you have finally arrived since you no longer wait until the last minute to "do your homework". But have you ever thought that you were finished with a pesky old ...
Views: 2320(10 votes) - Transforming Your Workplace - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIf you want to be happy and satisfied, it is important that you investigate how it is that you relate to your world, your workplace and to yourself. The Workplace as a Gateway to the Moment Let's look at the workplace to access how you relate to your life. By and large, most people spend ...
Views: 1508(7 votes) - But I Want to Be An Artist! An excerpt from Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneOne fall, my husband, Shya and I held one of our business courses called "Transformation in the Workplace," in New York City. Folks from all different fields were there to discover what it takes to experience wellbeing on the job, and how to effectively communicate. As the weekend progressed, we ...
Views: 1600(7 votes) - So Much to Do, So Little Time to Do It! - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneWe recently received a phone call from one of our clients. She was frantic. She couldn't get it all done. There were so many deadlines. There was so much to produce, and there was so little time. We had a conversation with her and within 10 minutes, she gave up feeling overwhelmed, had gotten ...
Views: 3265(7 votes) - Breaking the Cycle of Unfulfilling Relationships, an excerpt from How to Create a Magical Relationship, The Three Simple Ideas T - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIf you want to create a working, supportive relationship with another, it is imperative that you be willing to be complete in the relationship you have with your parents. The dictionary defines complete as "lacking no component part; full; whole; entire." But what does being incomplete with your ...
Views: 2475(7 votes) - Happiness: What it Isn't - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneHappiness is a very popular theme these days and we guess it always has been. From the time we were children, we have been taught that it is better to be happy. Everyone knows it is better to be happy or joyous than sad or angry or upset or unsure of what to do with one's life. So people try, ...
Views: 1922(7 votes) - Buy a Ticket - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2009 from Ariel and Shya KaneAn Excerpt from "Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment." Our assistant, Christina, came to work in the office one Saturday and we noticed that she seemed a bit subdued. She didn't look like her beautiful, lively self and so we sat down with her over a cup of coffee and asked if ...
Views: 1736(9 votes) - The Majesty of the Moment - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneAn excerpt from "Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment." In early September 2004, our first day offshore in Venezuela, Shya caught and released his very first white marlin using a fly rod. Photo ops abounded at this exciting acrobatic, dancing, leaping event. Earlier that day, the ...
Views: 1745(7 votes) - Ariel and Shya's Tips for Coping with the Economic Downturn - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya Kane1. Don't panic, breathe. You are equipped to deal with whatever comes up in your life in each moment. You are not equipped to deal with hypothetical futures, which is what worrying is all about. Breathing automatically brings you back into the moment, calms and centers you. 2. Don't ...
Views: 1679(7 votes) - The Perfect You - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneWhere did you learn what is beautiful? Where did you learn what is ugly? Where did you learn what a perfect body looks like?... And how old were you when you came to these conclusions? A few years ago when walking down the street in Paris we found ourselves taken by the body image represented ...
Views: 1837(7 votes) - Susan's First Date - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIt was still cool at 6:30 in the morning as we strolled barefoot with Susan down Costa Rica's Manuel Antonio beach. We were in the midst of one of our Costa Rican Self Discovery Adventures that we hold each winter. People come from all over the world to join us and use it as a time to get away ...
Views: 1352(7 votes) - Agendas - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneBelow is an article investigating a driving force in people's lives, their agendas. There are agendas that people are aware of and then there are those of which they are unaware. It is the latter that causes the mischief that shows up in our daily lives. In this column, we are going to identify ...
Views: 1821(7 votes) - Adult Survivors Of Childhood - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneRecently, a fellow came to see us who considers himself an adult. According to the story of his life, he has survived his painful childhood. But his interpretation of the childhood which he survived comes from the distortions and misrepresentations of a child’s mind. Let’s be specific. ...
Views: 1469(7 votes) - Coming Full 'ircle, An Excerpt from<br> <i>Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment</i> - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneWhat if you are doing your life perfectly? What if the things that you think are failings on your part are not really failings at all? Has it ever occurred to you that as a child you perfectly absorbed information from your environment, learning wholeheartedly when your brain was not yet able to ...
Views: 1639(6 votes) - So Much to Do, So Little Time! - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneWe recently received a phone call from one of our clients. She was frantic. She couldn't get it all done. There were so many deadlines. There was so much to produce, and there was so little time. We had a conversation with her and within 10 minutes, she gave up feeling overwhelmed, had gotten ...
Views: 1723(6 votes) - How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything, Discovering Your Relationship DNA - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneStart with the idea that how you do anything is how you do everything and it will empower you to investigate how you relate, not just in a love relationship, but also with yourself and all others. This defuses the mindset of looking to fix what is ‘broken' and sets you on the path to ...
Views: 2375(6 votes) - Fun is Not a Four Letter Word - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneOh, the pressure! Men and women are trying to find “The One.” When looking for a potential mate, the urge to get in there and make it work is a driving force. People are so busy looking for someone who is relationship material and finding Mr. or Ms. Right that they forget to have ... ...
Views: 1533(7 votes) - How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2006 from Ariel and Shya KaneStart with the idea that how you do anything is how you do everything and it will empower you to investigate how you relate, not just in a love relationship, but also with yourself and all others. This defuses the mindset of looking to fix what is ‘broken’ and sets you on the path to having ...
Views: 2073(5 votes) - Starting Over - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneHave you ever found yourself in one of those moods where no matter what your partner says or does, it is all fodder for the fight? Where you are angry, disturbed and nothing he or she says or does is right or good enough to relieve your sense of aggravation? We recently met a couple involved ...
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