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- In Need of Deepening - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2021 from Paul DunionIn Need of Deepening Paul Dunion Sometimes, we settle for knowing what we experience by having an understanding of what it isn’t. So, it may be with the idea of depth. Typically, we know it isn’t about being superficial, shallow or mundane. We use the language of depth ...
Views: 451 - Episodic Intimacy vs. Committed Intimacy - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2021 from Paul DunionEpisodic Intimacy vs. Committed Intimacy Dr. Paul Dunion There are at least two expressions of emotional intimacy, with one gaining increasing popularity. Episodic Intimacy is the one becoming more and more in vogue. It can offer some advantages that don’t come with the ...
Views: 624 - Seeking Meaning Beyond Trauma - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2020 from Paul DunionSeeking Meaning Beyond Trauma Dr. Paul Dunion For many, the search for genuine meaning remains a desirous life-long pursuit. There are many expressions of meaning. How do we know when our lives can actually be characterized as meaningful? On a very fundamental level, ...
Views: 666 - The Challenge of Complex Trauma and Facing Ambiguity - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from Paul DunionThe Challenge of Complex Trauma and Facing Ambiguity Dr. Paul Dunion Survivors of early complex, developmental trauma have little or no resiliency to effectively respond to ambiguity or uncertainty. Their resiliency is compromised by an overriding need of the ...
Views: 748 - A Five Stage Re-entry to the Here and Now - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2020 from Paul DunionA Five Stage Re-entry into the Here and Now Paul Dunion The idea that it may be worthwhile to live as much as possible in the here and now seems to have been reduced to a minor spiritual axiom. Recently, while having dinner with an old friend who has enjoyed a generous amount of ...
Views: 658 - Leaders Shamelessly Lost - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2020 from Paul DunionLeaders Shamelessly Lost Paul Dunion Leaders are especially vulnerable to the cultural mandate that they are not supposed to be lost. Laurence Gonzales’ seminal work, Deep Survival, suggests that when leaders are lost, denial of being lost is inevitable. “Being lost then, is ...
Views: 691 - Seeking Balance - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2020 from Paul DunionSeeking Balance Paul Dunion What is balance? Is it a good thing? If so, how is it acquired? Before addressing psychological balance, let’s explore the analogy of physical balance. We say that if you can stand on one foot while holding the other foot uplifted, you have ...
Views: 1074 - Building Bridges - From Divisiveness to Unity - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2020 from Paul DunionBuilding Bridges – From Divisiveness to Unity Paul Dunion We all love hearing beliefs that are indistinguishable from our own. What can we make of this propensity to rejoice over conversations where the participants agree, confirm and even applaud our beliefs? The ego ...
Views: 650 - Blessing for the Peacemaker - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2020 from Paul DunionA Blessing For the Peacemaker Paul Dunion Kabir says, “When deep inside you there is a loaded gun, how can you have God?” Kabir appears to be reminding us that our relationship with the divine is dependent upon living with diminished inner violence. As one who desires to make ...
Views: 629 - Black Lives Matter - From Altruism and Beyond - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Paul DunionBlack Lives Matter – From Altruism and Beyond Dr. Paul Dunion Our streets are talking to us. The talk is loud and mostly true. It says, “Black lives matter”, “Marginalization of some hurts everyone”, “Separation breeds ignorance and fear”, Leadership from ego cannot hold those ...
Views: 841 - A Blessing for the Meaning-Maker - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2020 from Paul DunionA Blessing for the Meaning-Maker Paul Dunion You, you maker of meaning, you have dared to honor your task by participating in creation. The gods look kindly upon your devotion to deeply touch your experience with curiosity and wonder. Such faithfulness intimately bonds you ...
Views: 843 - Blessings For Dreams Lived and Unlived - by Submitted on May 16, 2020 from Paul DunionBlessings For Dreams Lived and Unlived Paul Dunion I watched you with eyes of the heart. You sat alone in the den in that old beige chair, with a dim lamp appearing to struggle to shed enough light for reading. You sat night after night, your glasses tipped ...
Views: 666 - Addressing Familial Estrangement During a Pandemic - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Paul DunionAddressing Familial Estrangement During a Pandemic Dr. Paul Dunion Social distancing is the prescribed way to prevent the exponential advance of our pandemic. Due to complex schedules and a hectic lifestyl social distancing as well as emotional distancing are often common features of ...
Views: 811 - An Estranged Family or Not Enough Family - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2020 from Paul DunionAn estranged family prioritizes the autonomy and individuality of each member at the cost of sacrificing emotional connection to one another. Similar to all groups and communities, an estranged family is attempting to cope with the tension between honoring individual preferences and beliefs and ...
Views: 841 - An Enmeshed Family or Too Much Family - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2020 from Paul DunionAn enmeshed family diminishes the value of individual members while prioritizing the wellbeing of the group. The enmeshed imperative is: Are you giving enough to others? Weak boundaries do not successfully separate and honor individual preferences and needs. There is a way to be, and individual ...
Views: 887 - Reality Eclipsed by Virtual Reality - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2020 from Paul DunionReality Eclipsed by Virtual Reality Paul Dunion There appears to be increased alarm about young males becoming obsessed with playing video games. The concern may be approaching epidemic proportions as there are now counselors and psychologists identified as experts who treat ...
Views: 610 - Parentification - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2019 from Paul DunionParentification Dr. Paul Dunion Parentification of children happens when parents are either unwilling and/or unable to effectively parent their children. Parental absence may occur because of mental illness, addiction, arrested development, medical issues or unavailability due ...
Views: 728 - Parentification - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2019 from Paul DunionParentification Dr. Paul Dunion Parentification of children happens when parents are either unwilling and/or unable to effectively parent their children. Parental absence may occur because of mental illness, addiction, arrested development, medical issues or unavailability due ...
Views: 741 - The Looking Good Family - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2019 from Paul DunionThere is a cultural phenomenon deserving our attention. That is, the increased appearance of families committed to looking good. We’ll examine some of the actual dynamics in a looking good family and attempt to name what drives parents to create such a system. We’ll conclude with some ...
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