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- THE FOUR SURPRISING CAUSES OF STRESS - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2017 from Janet PfeifferHow many of you would like to live a stress-free life? I'm guessing it would be quite a few. Most people I know view stress as a negative experience. Yet like any emotion, it doesn't have to prove detrimental to our health or overall well-being. Stress is actually less complicated than one ...
Views: 1971 - HOW TO PREVENT PEOPLE FROM PUSHING YOUR BUTTONS - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe've all blamed others for how we feel at times. "You really make me angry!" "You hurt my feelings!" "You totally embarrassed me!" Most people don't realize that by allowing others to push our buttons and determine how we feel, we actually give away our personal power. Others decide for us ...
Views: 1854 - 10 PROLIFIC COMMUNICATE TIPS - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt's difficult for a lot of people to communicate with each other effectively. Unless you're a recluse, communication is something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host, I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. ...
Views: 1611 - "THE 12 YEA'S OF CHRISTMAS: "GETTING ALONG WITH FAMILY DURING THE HOLIDAYS" - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIs world peace really possible? Maybe, but peace begins within, then extends into the home before it can reach global proportions. Sadly, the holidays, proclaimed the most wonderful time of the year, are more realistically the most stressful, bringing out the worst in people rather than the true ...
Views: 1376 - SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS TO ANGER - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI've spoken many times about the importance of all feelings, anger included. With every emotion we experience, we have the ability to learn much about ourselves. No feeling is inherently wrong. It's how we choose to express and use them that determines their value. In my book "The Secret ...
Views: 1931 - FIVE EASY STEPS TO INNER PEACE - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferOne of my favorite authors, the late Dr. Wayne Dyer, once stated that "There is no way to peace. Peace is the way." This seemed rather contradictory to the common belief that a peaceful state of existence is a destination we arrive at after traversing a righteous path. Wayne challenges us to ...
Views: 1579 - ASSUME, ACCUSE, ASK - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt some point in almost every person's life, we have made false assumptions about another or blamed an innocent party for something they were not responsible for. Needless to say, both of these behaviors can lead to hurt feelings, people being offended and outraged or an angry defensive response ...
Views: 1842(1 vote) - THE WHY'S WAY TO NEUTRALIZE ANGER - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIf I told you that there was one simple word that could prevent anger from arising would you be interested in discovering what that word is? Or in the event that anger showed up without warning, this same word could easily subdue it and restore your sense of calm? Would you utilize this ...
Views: 1546 - IT'S NOT FAIR! - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ...
Views: 1276 - HOW TO EFFORTLESSLY WIN WHEN ARGUING - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWouldn't it be wonderful if every time we disagreed with someone we could actually win when arguing? For many, disagreements are viewed as a battle of intelligence between two opposing forces. Each having what they believe to be a strong and valid position on a topic, they engage in verbal and ...
Views: 1388 - PUSHED TOO FAR: WHEN PEOPLE SNAP - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe are all too familiar with headline stories about people who are pushed to their limits and snap. Whether on the job, within their own families, or even children in school - everyone has their breaking point. In 2010, Omar Thorton, a 34-year old employee at the Hartford Beer Distributors in ...
Views: 1699 - 10 WAYS TO STOP PEOPLE FROM ANNOYING YOU - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Janet PfeifferThey're like mosquitoes on a hot summer night - those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other ...
Views: 2158 - 10 QUICK TIPS TO RESOLVE FAMILY FEUDS - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Janet PfeifferFamilies can be our greatest source of joy as well as a never ending cause of stress. Comprised of a diverse blend of personalities, families are a mixture of quirky behaviors, opposing viewpoints, various needs, beliefs, and values, along with opposing methods of how members perform certain ...
Views: 2030(1 vote) - IT'S NOT FAIR! - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ...
Views: 1484 - IT'S NOT FAIR! - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ...
Views: 1361 - IT'S NOT FAIR! - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ...
Views: 1403 - EXPOSING COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT ANGER - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI've been presenting seminars on understanding and healing anger for 25 years and it never ceases to amaze me how much misinformation is circulating about one of life's most powerful emotions. Lack of accurate facts and techniques can have serious repercussions in every aspect of life from ...
Views: 1511 - 4 SIMPLE RULES FOR A HAPPY LIFE - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Janet PfeifferMost people I know want to be happy. I say most because there some who are really miserable and seem content remaining that way. They resist every opportunity for joy and find excuses to stay stuck in their gloom. Although I believe that deep down inside every human being desires happiness, I ...
Views: 1490 - WHEN LYING IS THE BETTER OPTION - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2017 from Janet PfeifferCurrently there is a commercial on TV where a cheerful woman visits her new neighbor with a homemade pie. She states that she has actually come by not to simply welcome the woman into the neighborhood but to see if in fact she might be weird in some way. The smiling neighbor inquires as to ...
Views: 1510 - WHAT TO DO WHEN CONFLICT RESOLUTION FAILS - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWouldn't life be wonderful if every time we disagreed with someone we could find a perfect solution that would satisfy each party and put the issue to rest once and for all? So often when a conflict arises, we spend an enormous amount of time and energy debating it, trying to prove our position, ...
Views: 1976 - 5 QUALITIES OF NON VIOLENT FIGHTING - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWhen individuals disagree on a subject matter, whether it's politics, religion, home projects, budgeting issues or such, very often the discussion escalates into a full-blown fight. Tensions rise as each side tries to convince the other that their beliefs or ways of doing something are more ...
Views: 1773 - WHY YOU NEED TO CHANGE - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2017 from Janet PfeifferPeople become defensive at the thought of someone telling them or implying that they must change. "I am who I am; take it or leave it" is often the response. "I'm not changing for anyone. Except me for who I am or don't be in my life." While many view these comments as signs of self-confidence - ...
Views: 1450 - P~R~E ANGER: PREVENT, REDUCE, ELIMINATE - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2017 from Janet PfeifferYou've heard me say in previous shows that anger is a normal, healthy, and in many cases a useful emotion. While some may believe that the feeling itself is wrong or bad, it's not. It is the way we choose to express it and use it determines if it becomes a positive force in our lives to bring ...
Views: 1365 - GOOD L~U~C DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Janet PfeifferLast week, I spoke before a group of business professionals about dealing with difficult people. It seems that no matter where we are in life, whether at home with our families, in social settings, at work, or just out and about, we encounter challenging and obnoxious people. The first issue we ...
Views: 1417 - ROAD RAGE: A MATTER OF LIFE OR DEATH - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2017 from Janet PfeifferRecently, I've been driving into NY City to do mediations for a large clothing manufacture on Madison Ave. I used to teach classes at the Learning Annex and some of my son's doctor's were in the city as well. However, it's been awhile and as incomprehensible as it may sound, NY has become even ...
Views: 1451 - SAVING AMERICA: HOW TO REVERSE HATRED AND RESTORE UNITY - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2017 from Janet PfeifferOur country is experiencing the most tumultuous and dangerous period that I can remember since the race riots in the 1960's. Political dissension, racial profiling, random massacres, gender prejudice, a reckless and deceitful media, entitlement, and more have caused a division of American of ...
Views: 1770 - HA-HA SORB APPROACH TO BULLIES - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2017 from Janet PfeifferPeople don't typically want to interact with those they consider to be bullies or tyrants. Yet contrary to popular belief, bullies are not bad people. It's their behaviors that are appalling. They act out their pain, loneliness, insecurities, and so on in the most offensive and unkind ways. But ...
Views: 1357 - ABCE: ANGER, BOUNDARIES, COMPASSION, ENABLING - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2017 from Janet PfeifferNo matter who we are or where we go in life, we encounter people who are struggling with personal issues and are not easy to engage with. They can prove challenging to deal for a variety of reasons. Often times, we feel ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. Some, feeling overwhelmed or ...
Views: 1696 - FORGIVENESS: HOW TO Part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIn last week's show, we spoke about why some people choose not to forgive and why it's essential to do so. There are many reasons and two of the biggest are: they feel the person is not deserving of being forgiven; 2. they feel that should they grant pardon, the other party will think the ...
Views: 1241 - FORGIVENESS: WHY WE DON'T, BUT NEED TO AND HOW Part 1 - by Submitted on May 31, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIs there someone in your life that you either refuse to forgive or are having a hard time with? I've often heard people make statements such as "I'll never forgive them for what they did!" Or, "Some things should never be forgiven." Still others feel that some people simple do not deserve ...
Views: 1431 - ANGRY? GET OVER IT! - by Submitted on May 24, 2017 from Janet PfeifferToday my husband and I had our fifth fight. Not bad for a twenty year marriage but regardless, for an anger management professional such as myself, I didn't handle it very well. Actually, fight is not an accurate description as it was more like a huff, that is we got annoyed at each other. Let ...
Views: 1317 - TEN TIPS TO DIFFUSE A VOLATILE SITUATION - by Submitted on May 17, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe are living in a very volatile and dangerous age. Not only have issues of domestic violence, child and animal abuse, anger in the workplace and so on been more apparent, but we are definitely witnessing a rise of violence within our communities. Gangs and individual assaults seem to be taking ...
Views: 1360 - WHEN TO FIGHT AND WHEN TO NOT - by Submitted on May 10, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI'm not much of a fighter. When I was a child, my dad taught me that if someone hits you, hit them back but never be the one to throw the first punch. In essence, only fight back when you have to defend yourself. My mom's message was taken from Luke 6:29 and contradicted Dad's: "If someone slaps ...
Views: 1339 - NEVER BE A VICTIM AGAIN! - by Submitted on May 03, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt some time in life, most people feel as though they've been treated unfairly to the extent that they would consider themselves a victim. Certainly those who have been the target of a violent crime fall into that category according to society's standards. Even those of lesser offenses can view ...
Views: 1711 - I DARE YOU TO ASK THIS - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2017 from Janet PfeifferRelationships are critically important in our lives. On a professional level, being a good team player and getting along well with others enables us to maintain our jobs and receive such perks as bonuses or promotions. Also, connecting with the right people can advance our careers providing we ...
Views: 1549 - EMOTIONAL /SPIRITUAL RECOVERY FROM TRAUMATIC EVENTS - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from Janet PfeifferLife can change in a heartbeat. A few weeks ago, a family was stopped at a red light and rear-ended by a drunk driver. Their 10-year old son, Matthew, suffered a severe head trauma and is in a medically induced coma. The prognosis is not good and the family struggles to make sense of what was an ...
Views: 1704 - RIGHTEOUS ANGER - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIn regards to anger, I have good news and some bad news. First the good news: there is nothing wrong with being angry. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. It is even necessary for justice to preside as well as for our very survival. The bad news is that it is not ok to express it whenever and ...
Views: 1391 - THE T-I-B-Bs AFFECT ON ANGER - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAlthough we often classify a person's actions as problematic, in truth a person's conduct is never the real problem. Behavior is nothing more than an outward expression of an internal issue. For example, if an individual is in a bad mood and arguing with those around them, the fighting simply ...
Views: 1438 - LAUGH AWAY ANGER - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2017 from Janet PfeifferPeople take life far too seriously. There are important issues in our world such as child abuse, war, poverty, starvation, disease, etc. These are all matters critical for the well-being of humanity. Each one needs to be addressed and resolved quickly in order to protect mankind and eliminate ...
Views: 1931 - "GO AHEAD - GET GOOD AND ANGRY!" - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt's hard to avoid getting angry. Even those who are relatively easy going find themselves irate from time to time. At the most inopportune moments, anger can rear its ugly head and create all sorts of havoc in our lives. Consider these examples: You've been under extraordinary amounts of ...
Views: 1455 - "THE F~B~I WAY TO WARD OFF ANGER - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI've been teaching people about anger for nearly twenty five years. What I do is commonly referred to as anger management training. However, this implies that people must first become irate and then seek methods of how to manage it effectively, express it appropriately, and ultimately put it to ...
Views: 1445 - A W-I-S-E APPROACH TO RESOLVING CONFLICTS - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIn college, one of my philosophy professors would frequently have the class debate a hot topic. He'd randomly divide the class in half and have each side present their best argument in support of their assigned position. Regardless of how you felt personally, you were expected to gather as many ...
Views: 2130 - Part 2: "20+ TIMES TO NOT SAY ANYTHING" - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Janet PfeifferContinuing from where we left off last week, remember that there is a time to speak and a time to keep our mouths shut. Here are more examples of when it's best to remain silent: 11. When you are tempted to outright lie. People lie for a variety of reasons: to protect themselves or another ...
Views: 1660 - 20+ TIMES NOT TO SAY ANYTHING - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferThere are so many times in our lives when we realize after the fact that it would have been in our best interest to have kept our thoughts to ourselves. Words are powerful and can make matters better or cause damage to others or get us into a whole lot of trouble. There is much wisdom in the old ...
Views: 1736 - ANGER: FIRE OR ICE? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of ...
Views: 1613 - ALTERNATIVE RESPONSES TO ANGER - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferLife doesn't always turn out the way we'd like. When situations take an unfavorable turn, we become upset, frustrated, or angry. When others don't agree with us, live their life the way we think they should, or act in a manner we find disturbing, anger is a typical response. With the exception a ...
Views: 2364 - MAD, SAD, OR GLAD: THE OPTIONS - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe all get angry from time-to-time. Sometimes our anger is righteous, that is to say it is justifiable and other times without valid cause. For instance, imagine your child is late returning from an evening basketball game. He does not call to let you know that the game went into overtime. ...
Views: 1495 - THE 15 MINUTE CONFLICT RESOLUTION SOLUTION - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular ...
Views: 1529 - STICKS AND STONES: DISARMING HURTFUL WORDS - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI used to pride myself on being sensitive. The problem was I was easily hurt by the things other people said to me. I lived in a chronic state of pain which lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and low self-esteem. But the alternative (being cold and aloof) was less appealing so I resigned myself ...
Views: 1559 - Ten Tips For Arguing Wtih An Idiot - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2016 from Janet Pfeiffer"Idiots" are simply people like you and I who are struggling with unresolved personal issues ranging from low self-esteem to ego, insecurity to poor impulse control and more. While it is acceptable to regard the behavior as idiotic, it is never permissible to label the individual as such. People ...
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