The safest principle through life, instead of reforming others, is to set about perfecting yourself." - B.R.Haydon

So, how does the above quote reference the importance of personal growth and development? Well, very simply, we must stop trying to expect other people to change so that we can feel good about life in general. Trying to get everyone around you to conform to your way of being is a futile endeavor. Not only that, you are giving your power to them! If you are observing someone's behavior and you find it unpleasant, rather than wanting that person to change, what needs to shift is YOUR perception of what you've observed. Remember, in most cases, we do not know what motives are behind the behavior of others. For example, you're driving along and someone cuts you off. What you don't know is that person just received a call that a loved one was injured and they are rushing to the hospital to be with them. If you knew the reason, you'd understand their urgency. However, we are not privy to the reason are we?

So what does this teach us? It teaches us that we need to come from a space of non-judgment when observing the behavior of others for we know not why they act the way they do. To cultivate this kind of perspective takes a new way of thinking and being that does not generally come about without deliberate efforts in your own personal growth and development. In addition, fostering your own personal growth and development provides for spiritual expansion and an inner peace. When we set a course for growth and expansion, we come to the realization that our happiness and well-being is our own individual responsibility. We accept responsibility for our own lives. We take back our power!

Hiring a coach is an excellent way to foster your own personal growth and development. A coach can assist you in shifting your perspective, letting go of limiting beliefs that no longer serve you and help you to adopt new beliefs and attitudes that are more in tune with the person you are becoming. A good coach holds the space for you to be all that you are capable of being while at the same time cheers you on every step of the way. Your coach sees in you what you cannot yet see in yourself. If this is something that sounds interesting to you, I invite you to schedule a free Discovery session to see what is possible for you.

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Rev. Elaine C. Torrance-Gingrich is the founder of Avalonian Moon LLC, a company devoted to teaching women who are facing the challenges and transitions of midlife, how to develop and strengthen their connection to their own Inner Goddess so they can create their most magnificent life with more abundance, laughter and magic.

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