Last month, we emphasized the importance of defining your success and the use of affirmation in becoming the success you desired. This month, we will be looking at another major step in the process of transforming our lives from where we are to the state we desired.

More often, we blame our background, environment or someone else for our situation. We react as if we have no control or had no contributions to our present situation. Is it true that our lives are being controlled by factors other than our will? Our creator has deposited what it takes to take charge of our life in us. We have the choice to make.

I congratulate you if you are not satisfied with your present situation. It is a sign of the pending greatness in you. Activate that greatness now by accepting that you’re principally responsible for your present state. There is power of self forgiveness and zeal to move on in accepting total responsibly.

Say this Total Responsibly Statement aloud with me: “I accept responsibility for everything good and bad about my present state. All I wish to change were the results of my past thinking, choices, decisions, actions or inaction. I am the solution and I will live the life I want by changing my thoughts, doing things differently and seeking divine help. I am a champion.”

I will briefly share with you the benefits of accepting responsibility.

1. Stronger Belief: The size of your belief determines the size of your success. Accepting responsibility ignites your belief and power to try again.

2. Positive reaction to criticism or mockery: Accepting responsibility gives you the strength to handle criticisms and makes you see a mockery as a pain in the making of a gain. Let me share one of my life experiences on this. I made a decision that affected my entire life downwardly (career, finance, family, etc.) in 2006. In late 2007, my beloved brother (who is so much interested in my success and had indeed sowed toward that) harassed me. He posited that I acted again all advice, and now I am in a bad situation. I know he loved me, and he wasn’t happy seeing things going wrong with me. After his repeated harassments and at times pity, I confronted him at the peak of my voice. I told him “I am responsible for my state, and I will get out in no time. I told him if I am in the same point of decision in life, I will make similar decisions because I understood my state more than you know”. He stopped criticizing me from that day, and I got out of that situation eventually. His criticism challenged me but not before I took total responsibility. I prayed to God and worked on myself to get out of that situation. Do not ignore the place of spiritual responsibility.

3. New zeal and energy level: when you accept responsibility for a need to change, your zeal and energy level increases. Immediately, I confronted my brother, I knew the battle line was drawn. I became more prayerful, positive and strategic. He noticed a change in my altitude and came back planning and supporting me than never before. Are you providing the needed supports for someone in the valley?

Just like affirmation, accepting responsibility is a path not the destination of your journey. You will need to be determined and work to get out of that valley. I am sure you can do it. All you need to do after taking responsibility is to:

1.Forget the past and all the negative experiences. In photography, negatives are only used to develop pictures (positive). Use your negative experience to produce sweet experience.
2.Learn from other people’s experience (OPE)
3.Take confident, tactical and calculated actions and risk. You must try repeatedly until you succeed. Success is a journey not a destination.

You’ll succeed!

Truly Babs.

Author's Bio: 

Babs is a life coach and the founder of SuccessMind International.