Anger is a part of all our lives. If we’re really fortunate, we may not have a lot of people around us that make us mad. If we’re less fortunate, we may find that every day is a test for us, and that we spend an awful lot of time trying to stay calm in the face of irritations, aggravations and stressors.

I was married to a man for 12 years that didn’t think anything I did was right. He infuriated me by nit picking about every detail of our lives. If I went to the trouble of baking a cake for him, it was too dry. If I cooked a nice dinner, the food wasn’t hot enough. If I dusted all the furniture, I missed a few spots. You get the general idea.

I have long since divorced that jerk, and thereby bought a lot more serenity into my life. At the time that I was married to him, EFT didn’t yet exist, else I might have found serenity a lot sooner.

If you have someone in your life that seems to be constantly making you mad, whether it’s a spouse, a child, a parent, a neighbor or a coworker, EFT is the perfect way to deal with that anger. It works quickly and easily and leaves you feeling relaxed and at ease, once the anger has drained out of your body.

Two or three rounds of tapping can make a profound difference in you attitude, and can allow you to much more easily make it through the day.

Below is a sample tapping script for anger at your spouse, but the words can easily be changed to better suit your specific needs. Give it a try, and let that anger go right now with EFT!

Tapping Script For Anger at a Spouse

Karate chop:

  • Even though I feel a lot of anger at my husband/wife, and I feel like he/she makes my life much more difficult than it needs to be, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though I’m really mad at my husband/wife for being _______ (demanding, unreasonable, argumentative, etc.) and that anger makes my whole body feel as tight as an overstretched rubber band, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though I feel like I’m angry at my husband/wife all of the time because of the way he/she acts, I know that the anger is only hurting me, and I’m open to starting to let go of some of that anger, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.

Eyebrow: I’m so angry at my husband/wife
Side of eye: My husband/wife constantly picks at me about everything
Under eye: Nit picking and criticism is the order of the day
Under nose: And that makes me really, really mad
Chin: I can feel that anger all through my body
Collar bone: Every muscle is stretched too tight
Under arm: I’m tired of feeling all tied up in knots
Top of head: By all the anger that I’m dealing with.

Eyebrow: I’m full of anger at my husband/wife
Side of eye: But I’m willing to consider starting to let go of that anger
Under eye: That anger is keeping me stressed and upset
Under nose: And I’m ready to start feeling better about this
Chin: Starting to release some of that anger
Collar bone: And feeling my body relax, a little at a time
Under arm: Letting go of that feeling of being strung too tight
Top of head: And enjoying the feeling as my muscles start to relax.

Eyebrow: My anger isn’t serving me well
Side of eye: And I know that it’s time to get rid of it
Under eye: Letting the anger drain right out of my body
Under nose: With every breath that I take
Chin: And replacing that anger with a feeling of peace
Collar bone: Feeling better and better as I keep tapping
Under arm: And loving that I’m feeling better and more relaxed
Top of head: As I move toward a place of healing and inner peace.

Author's Bio: 

Pat Burns is an EFT Practitioner and Reiki Master from Tallahassee, Florida. She works with those with self esteem, inner child or adoption issues, and those seeking serenity in their lives. Email Pat at or visit her website at