Tapping For Confidence With Good Qualities EFT

Many of us are taught that self-praise is selfish and immodest. Some have even been taught that it was wrong. Or perhaps it was indirectly inferred that it was wrong. For example, we may as children have heard our mother, father or teacher say "look at her, she's so full of herself" or look at him, he is always bragging about his latest car". Some of us are even taught that we must be "humble", be ashamed of ourselves, or not blow our own trumpet.

Some people have not heard this from adults but perhaps compared themselves unfavorably to other children at school or to a sibling. "I have nothing to offer" they may say, when comparing themselves to a more confident boy or a prettier girl.

But confident people generally have been encouraged by a parent or care-giver to accept praise and see the good qualities in themselves. They have been taught to feel proud of themselves.

So how can you be more confident? How can you feel more at ease with yourself? One way is to mimic the upbringing of that confident person and give yourself praise. If that feels scary or wrong or selfish, do not worry. You are not alone. Think about it this way. Self-praise for our good qualities can help us. And when we feel more at ease with ourselves, we radiate pride and peace. And others also feel that pride and peace, and they also start feeling proud and at ease with themselves with the worthiness energy that you radiate.

So, start with making a list of your good qualities. If this feels uncomfortable, then you can tap for it. Ask yourself on a scale of 10-0, where 10 is totally uncomfortable and 0 is totally at ease, how uncomfortable do you feel about making this list? Then tap as follows until that number 10-0 is as low as you can get it.

Setup:

"Even though it feels unsafe or wrong to write down a list of my good qualities, I honor my feelings anyway"

Reminder:

"Unsafe or wrong to write down a list of my good qualities"

When you are ready, write down a list of 10 things that you like about yourself. Put this list somewhere where you can see it, such as in the bathroom, your bedroom, on a fridge magnet, your desk, or just carry it around with you. Get used to looking at this list for about a week or so. If it makes you feel discomfort to look at it or read it, then simply tap for it. Ask yourself on a scale of 10-0, where 10 is totally uncomfortable and 0 is totally at ease, how uncomfortable do you feel about looking at or reading this list? Then tap as follows until that number 10-0 is as low as you can get it.

Setup:

"Even though it feels unsafe or wrong to read this list of my good qualities, I honor my feelings anyway"

Reminder:

"Unsafe or wrong to read this list of my good qualities"

After a week, practice reading this list to yourself. Try to read it out loud. Or, if you have company nearby, practice reading it out loud in your mind. Tap on any discomfort. Do this daily until you feel more comfortable with the idea of self-praise. EFT is a great tool. Use it to tap away the feelings that do not currently serve you. And use it to tap in self-praise and therefore self-esteem.