(Excerpt from our Free Ebook How to Build Self-Esteem)

A negative Attitude and low self-esteem go hand in hand. Your self-esteem is a direct reflection of what you think and how you feel about yourself . When you are plagued with negative thoughts about yourself, and desire a positive Attitude you are ready to boost low self-esteem.

There are many, many indicators that a person has low self-esteem. Consider the following list:

People with low self-esteem:

• Consider themselves lost and unworthy of being cared for.
• Are poor risk takers.
• Operate out of a fear of rejection.
• Are typically unassertive in their behavior with others.
• Are fearful of conflict with others.
• Are hungry for the approval of others.
• Are poor problem solvers.
• Are fraught with irrational beliefs and have a tendency to think irrationally.
• Are susceptible to all kinds of fears.
• Have a tendency to become emotionally stuck and immobilized.
• Have a poor "track record" in school or on the job; conversely, they sometimes over compensate and become over-achievers.
• Are unable to affirm or to reinforce themselves positively.
• Are unable to make an honest assessment of their strengths, qualities, and good points; they find it difficult to accept compliments or recognition from others.
• Have poorly defined self-identities with a tendency to be chameleons in order to fit in with others.
• Are insecure, anxious, and nervous when they are with others.
• Often become overcome with anger about their status in life and are likely to have chronic hostility or chronic depression.
• Are easily overcome with despair and depression when they experience a setback or loss in their lives.
• Have a tendency to overreact and become de-energized by resentment, anger, and the desire for revenge against those whom they believe have not fully accepted them.
• Fulfill roles in their families of origin that are counter-productive and maladaptive. These roles carry over into their adult lives.
• Are vulnerable to mental health problems and have a propensity to use addictive behavior and substances to medicate their hurt and pain. Such addictive behavior can include alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, sex, shopping, smoking, working too much, or the endless search for excitement, truth, wisdom, and a guru to guide them.

Kind of overwhelming, isn’t it? Do you recognize yourself in any of the above statements? Don’t feel alone. Actually, low self-esteem is quite a widespread problem. And if you suffer from this, it can cause even more serious problems.

Low self-esteem can have the following devastating consequences:

• It can create anxiety, stress, loneliness and depression.
• It can cause problems with friendships and relationships.
• It can seriously impair academic and job performance.
• It can lead to underachievement and increased vulnerability to drug and alcohol abuse.

Worst of all, these negative consequences reinforce the negative Attitude and self-image that can catapult a person into a downward spiral of lower and lower self-esteem and increasingly non-productive or even actively self-destructive behavior.

So, what are the qualities of a person with a positive Attitude and healthy self-esteem?

The qualities of healthy self-esteem?

• They experience themselves as worthy to be loved and to love others, worthy to be cared for and to care for others, worthy to be nurtured and to nurture others, worthy to be touched and supported and to touch and support others, worthy to be listened to and to listen to others, worthy to be recognized and to recognize others, worthy to be encouraged and to encourage others, worthy to be reinforced as good people and to recognize others as good people.
• Are productive. They have achieved success to the best of their ability in school, work, and society.
• Are capable of being creative, imaginative problem solvers; of being risk takers, optimistic in their approach to life and in the attainment of their personal goals.
• Are leaders and are skillful in dealing with people. They are neither too independent nor too dependent on others. They have the ability to size up a relationship and adjust to the demands of the interaction.
• Have a healthy self-concept. Their perception of themselves is aligned with the image they project to others.
• Are able to state clearly who they are, what their future potential is, and to what they are committed in life. They are able to declare what they deserve to receive in their lifetime.
• Are able to accept the responsibility for and consequences of their actions. They do not resort to shifting the blame or using others as scapegoats for actions that result in a negative outcome.
• Are altruistic. They have a legitimate concern for the welfare of others. They are not self-centered or egotistical in their outlook on life. They do not take on the responsibility for others in an overly responsible way. They help others accept the responsibility for their own actions. They are, however, always ready to help anyone who legitimately needs assistance or guidance.
• Have healthy coping skills. They are able to handle the stresses in their lives in a productive way. They are able to put the problems, concerns, issues, and conflicts that come their way into perspective. They are able to keep their lives in perspective without becoming too idealistic or too morose. They are survivors in the healthiest sense of the word. They have a good sense of humor and are able to keep a balance of work and fun in their lives.
• They look to the future with excitement, a sense of adventure and optimism. They recognize their potential for success and visualize their success in the future. They have dreams, aspirations, and hopes for the future.
• They are goal-oriented with a sense of balance in working toward their goals. They know from where they have come, where they are now, and where they are going.

Does this sound like someone you want to be like? Well, it can be! There are numerous steps you can take to transform a negative Attitude and stop suffering from low self-esteem. You will be a much more satisfied person and enjoy a wonderfully fulfilling life.

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Author's Bio: 

Joan Breiner & Susyn Reeve have transformed their lives by using the tools and techniques presented on their website http://www.Self-Esteem-Experts.com. They know that maintaining a positive attitude starts with making a conscious choice and then knowing using the information, exercises, worksheets and Daily Inspirations, on their site, to support you in developing and maintaining a positive attitude no matter what is going on in your life.

They co-founded www.CelebrateAHero.com. A website to help you celebrate the special people in your life by making personalized gift books. Great for retirements, birthdays, anniversaries or anytime you want to honor someone for being special. Susyn is the co-creator of www.WithForgiveness.com and the author of Choose Peace & Happiness, The Gift of the Acorn and WITH Forgiveness Personal E-Workbook.

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