Is there any "right" or "wrong" sexual behavior? Here is how to step out of this dilemma and make your sexuality a source of freedom and joy...
Sidenote: words "sexual behavior"" jump out at you a bit too many times from the text of the article. Neglect it. It's done with a sole purpose to please search engines and let more people find this article and to receive this knowledge.
Your sexual behavior is your business only. Nobody else's.
RULE #1: ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE A SEXUAL BEING
Release any shame or guilt about your sexuality, sexual behavior, and your desires as a woman or a man.
Do you care what others think or say about you? If you do so - stop right now. What other people think of you is their business, not yours. It took me a while to apply this one but when it finally "clicked", I felt like flying and singing.
* For a woman - realize that society has taught you to be ashamed of your natural urges as a woman.
Example: Many women will tell their friends that the person they just slept with "did not count" only to avoid feeling of shame towards themselves.
Instead, respect yourself your desires and wishes, and spend your time with whomever you want no matter what the rest of the world tells you.
* For a man – accept your masculinity. Let your masculinity be present in you, do not suppress it.
Allow others to have their reactions. Do not make any apologies for your natural desires and sexual behavior.
Show your sexual side to a woman. However, do not become a savage. Show your interest in calm, confident, socially savvy way. Learn it. Take your time.
Realize that modern society made it is best to immaculate you so the way back to REAL YOU may take some time. Nevertheless, you definitely will get your balls and your sexuality back.
RULE #2: BE HONEST
"Be honest with yourself and be honest with me." That is what I tell to my new female friend almost straight away. Please note that I actually DO live this rule!
Is there any sense for you to wear a (social) mask and play games only for your new friend to find out a year later that you are a fake?
She or he will turn off in disgust and have a total right to do so.
Mask will fall off eventually. Why bother put it on at all?
RULE#3: MAKE SURE YOU UNDERSTAND THE OPPOSITE SEX
Learn and understand the fundamentals.
She-wants-to-cuddle-he-wants-to-sleep-after-sex kind of stuff.
Logic vs. Emotions.
Why male sexual behavior is SOOO different from female.
It sounds so simple but it works wonders in your intimate life and your relationships.
RULE #4: COMMUNICATE!
When in bed - communicate with your partner(s) or your date. Tell them what you want. Ask them to tell you what they want.
Do not expect that it will happen immediately – keep working on it. It is an ongoing thing.
Make them clear that you will NEVER JUDGE them for their desires and wishes.
From that moment on they can allow themselves to be themselves around you.
Prove it by actually BEING compassionate and non-judgmental.
This step requires awareness. It is such a relief for a woman (and for a man too) when s(he) can trust, relax and just enjoy the flow.
Everyone's dream is to have a partner with whom it becomes possible to satisfy one's curiosity and discover new things and desires that one had for so long.
This boils down to the following:
LET YOURSELF TO BE YOURSELF AND LET ANOTHER TO BE ANOTHER
Following these Four Golden Rules on sexual behavior will create a wonderful bond with those who do “click” with you and your values and principles and make you quickly say "good bye" to those who do not.
This action will spare you time and energy that you can invest in building a better life for yourself.
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Alex May was born in environment where sexuality and intimate life were strongly suppressed. Feeling powerful attraction towards opposite sex and discovering the excitement of being in love from a very early age - he never felt entirely at home there and left right after his university graduation.
Being fascinated by women and female body Alex May went through the world studying a huge variety of sources on different relationship styles and human sexuality.
He learned secrets of sensual Tantric massages, old Indian techniques, ancient shamanic practices, and modern Western trends and methods.
His quest for sharing that knowledge along with rising people’s consciousness so that they are able to access and freely enjoy their sexuality and intimate relationships actually never ends.
Right from the start Alex May felt an intuitive disbelief towards monogamy paradigm he was born into and raised to believe in.
His own experience plus tons of observations combined with in-depth research into various relationship issues and divorce rate statistics made him feel that he was on the right way.
Not relying too much on theories or other people’s words Alex May got a first-hand experience of a huge variety of relationship styles.
He later expanded his knowledge and experience into the area of social dynamics and male-female psychology including today’s international dating scene.
He stresses the importance of re-assessing people's REAL wants, needs, and beliefs, along with making conscious choices and heart-centered decisions. In short, this can be described as "unplugging from the matrix" for a while and finding your TRUE SELF.
Alex May lives in Amsterdam, the Netherlands. He travels internationally giving seminars, workshops, and private consultations with a single aim for people to have passionate, sexually charged, long-term, happy, and fulfilling relationships.
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