One of my biggest lessons is that my business is constantly showing me where I carry wounds that need healing. And when I heal that wound, I feel great! I'm more secure and grounded in myself; I have more self-confidence. I have much less second-guessing and fewer imaginary conversations with other people inside my head.

As I am healed, I'm able to heal others.

As I am healed, my business grows. I can have new responses to situations that used to bring out the worst in me. Instead of procrastinating, over-analyzing, and avoiding things, I'm able to quickly and easily make decisions and move forward without emotional back-and-forth and second-guessing.

The holiday season brings so many tensions to the forefront:

•How do I find time for everything I want to do while not completely exhausting myself?

•Is it OK to mentally and physically leave my business for the holiday? Will I feel behind when I get back to it?

•Why is my family so frustrating? Why don't they understand MY view of what the holiday means?

Did your holiday tensions show up on that list? Or are you feeling some strong emotions about a different issue?

If this season is bringing out strong emotions in you - you feel stressed, you're angry, or you're just overwhelmed - then it's likely that one of your deepest childhood wounds is being activated. That means you feel a lot of negative, lower-level emotions.

Whenever your childhood wounds are activated, you will be experiencing a return of your favorite childhood coping pattern - the one you created when you were 5 or 6 years old (or even younger).

The problem with this pattern is that it doesn't work, on any level. It doesn't help you feel better; your emotions are just as raw as ever. And it also doesn't help you create better relationships with the people who might be making you crazy over the holiday - aka your family and possibly your clients.

Personally, I've been shown where I need healing, right NOW, through one business situation and through one family Christmas argument. These happened within 48 hours of each other. No doubt about it, this is THE area I need to heal now. If I ignore that, the Universe will just present me with more opportunities until I finally get the message.

I'm also having coaching calls with clients who are having their own holiday A-HA's about which wounds need to be healed.

Your business is a mirror - everything you see in the mirror is a reflection of who you are. It's not a reflection of the outside world, it's a reflection of you.

So if you don't like what you see in your business, turn your gaze inward and see where your wound is. You're ready to be healed.


Take a couple of deep breaths, then close your eyes and ask yourself: How have I been feeling this holiday?

If you're feeling a higher level of negative emotions: frustration, anger, irritation, guilt or shame, then look at which situations have brought those emotions up most vividly. Who were you talking to? What was the subject? What was the response that really set you off?

Remember that this is most likely tied to your childhood experiences. What childhood experiences does this remind you of?

What does your wounded inner child want? And how can YOU give that to yourself?

Remember that no one else needs to give you permission, or apologize, or suffer, in order for you to be healed. You can heal yourself any time, through self-love.

Author's Bio: 

Marcy Stahl’s passion is helping women direct sellers and solopreneurs achieve the successful lifestyle they want. She knows that the top entrepreneurs have the top mindsets. Her mission is to help every entrepreneur develop a profitable and abundant mindset.

Marcy is a serial entrepreneur. Previously, she co-founded and managed a government contracting firm that earned over $1M in annual revenues. She holds a B.S. with honors and M.S. in Computer Science from George Mason University. Prior to coaching, she spent 21 years in the corporate world in technology.

She is the co-author of Direct Selling Power. Marcy is an Area Chapter Coordinator with the Direct Selling Women’s Alliance (DSWA) and a member of the Direct Selling Women’s Speaker Bureau. She’s currently in coaching school for direct sellers.