MORE-THAT FIRST STEP (forgiveness)
As usual, my coaching mentor, Dr. Randin Brons has hit a very good topic with this week's Idea Engineer.
Recently I did a blog on that first step that sparked very good response. Response indicates that it caused some thought, and I love to do that internally and spark it in others.
Randin talks about a first step to forgiveness, and his words are in keeping with I try to live and coach others in. This week says:
The first step to forgiveness

"To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it." -- Christiane Northrup

"To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel the pain of the experience. If we don't fully acknowledge our hurts, we will continue to carry them subconsciously and they will drain our energy.

To forgive, we need to decide that we won't allow the memories of the event to poison us any longer. We're ready to heal this wound from the past and open to a fresh new beginning.
The blessing is that when we're really ready to experience our pain and we open to it, it usually fades away. By honouring our pain, we release it."

"We must let ourselves feel all the painful destruction we want to forgive rather than swallow it in denial. If we do not face it, we cannot choose to forgive it." -- Kenneth McNoll

A thing all must remember-we don't have to say all was OK; we don't have to be door mats. We are right to feel, but that being said, we have to let go. We don’t have to let bad experiences occupy the valuable space in our heads like tenants who don't pay rent! Honour the pain, then release it; use the head space for something constructive!! Get ready for new beginnings every day.
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