A whole lots of people  are having problems in their marriage today because they allow barriers in their openness to their spouses,here let us check some of the barriers you must remove to give room for open ness in your marriage.

1.Ignorance. Many lack godly wisdom in marriage. They believe it is wrong to let their spouse know everything about them. This is not the right thing to do. Your spouse may be the only one who can give you godly counsel you need to help you solve that problem you are keeping from him or her. Just as you can't keep any secret from God, you shouldn't keep any from your spouse. Proverbs 16:2

Self. Selfishness is another reason some refuse to open up. A self-centered person sees things only in relation to himself. When self gets in the way, you are bound to see your spouse with jaundiced eye, then you will judge all actions in relation to you only. “Do they please me?” “Am I justified?” “Will I gain from it?” A good marriage is represented by the acronym- “JOY” meaning-

J- Jesus first
O- Others in between
Y- Yourself last.

Anything different from this will always amount to trouble in your marriage. Philippians 2:4.

3.Poor spiritual life. A man with a deficient spiritual life or a backslider is likely to listen to the world and not what God says. It takes the fear of God to make marriage work.

4.Unfaithfulness. When a person becomes unfaithful to his or her marriage vows, it becomes extremely difficult to open up to his or her partner. Proverbs 28:13

5.Wrong Association. When you relate with people who do not cherish marriage, then it becomes difficult to open up to your partner. Proverbs 29:24

6.Immaturity. It takes a mature mind to manage marriage in God's way. Baby husbands and wives will definitely make a mess of it. 1 Corinthians 14:20

7.Unforgiveness. Unforgiveness and a crave for vengeance destroy marriage easily. It breaks the unity of purpose and disallows openness. It breeds bitterness, hatred, resentment, nagging and a chain of evil things. Colossians 3:13

8.Wrong Conceptions. Misconceptions in marriage also destroy openness. Some people believe that one's spouse should not know everything about one's life. Those with this mindset cannot open up to each other.



Author's Bio: 

Bisi Adewale is an international conference speaker on marriage and family life, the author of these best selling books: Secrets of an Irresistible Wife, Hot and Sizzling Marriage, 20 Highways to a Successful Marriage, Before you say I Do, and more than 60 other best selling books on marriage, singleness, intimacy, sex, love, relationship, parenting and family life.

He is the president of Family Booster Ministry and College of Marital Success (CMS) (Africa’s Premier Marriage Institute), Host of Family Booster Moments on TV, watched in many countries across the globe.

Bisi Adewale also hosts the popular Lagos Couples’ Conference and breakthrough for singles summit, get a free book from him at www.totalfamilylife.com, you can buy his books on amazon.com or familybooster.com, join him on Facebook.com/totalfamilylife.