It is easy for people to throw caution into the wind after weeding, disrespecting their spouses, removing courtesy hurting each other deeply.

Many wrong things we cannot do to outsiders are what we do to our spouses, this is totally wrong.
To have intimacy in your marriage, to enjoy sizzling and intimate relationship with your spouse politeness is the key.

To show that we are polite to our spouse and spark up intimacy in our marriage, thereby enjoying the miracle of politeness in our homes, we must do the following:

1. Speak politely to your spouse. The easiest way to be impolite is through our words. An impolite person uses harsh words, is unkind, full of abusive words, criticizes unjustly and finds it easy to condemn. The easiest way to be polite can still be through our words; when you speak politely, encourage, motivate, appreciate, praise, assure your spouse of your support and speak to uplift each other. Proverbs 15:23 2. Be excited when you see your spouse, this is the key to intimacy in your home.

3. Honor him or her in the public and in secret.

4. Never report your spouse to your friends and family members.

5. Handle him or her politely in the presence of your friends, children and family.

6. Get angry politely. Even in the face of provocation, get angry without being impolite. You must not talk or act to destroy. When you are angry, express your anger in the most polite way.

7. Give attention to your spouse. It is an act of being impolite when you ignore your spouse whether at home or in public. This attitude has the capacity to kill your spouse's morale.

8. V.I.P your spouse. Treat your spouse as a very important personality. Give high regards to your mate, esteem him or her in your heart and in your actions.

9. Be a privileged partner. See yourself as a very privileged person to have married your spouse. See him as the president; handle her as you would if the first lady stays in your house. Give your husband a presidential welcome; give your wife a first lady salute. You are privileged to have married a man or woman like her.

10. Keep his or her secrets. Never divulge the secrets you are privileged to know about your spouse to anybody else. If you do that, you are being impolite. Proverbs 25:2.

11. Be polite to him or her in absential. Some people are fond of talking ill of their spouses when he or she is not there, only to honor him or her when the person comes. This is wrong. This is an act of disloyalty and very hypocritical. Proverbs 24:3-4 12. Be polite to him or her in your heart. Don't ever think negatively about your spouse in your heart, but if it comes, destroy it immediately. The heart is the seat of loyalty and disloyalty. Never allow your heart to work against your marriage; it is dangerous.

13. Be polite to your spouse even on the phone. Don't ever fail to pick his or her calls. If you do, which should not be intentional, call him or her back immediately. Speak to him or her with respect on phone. Don't ever hang up on your spouse; it is a sign of impoliteness. Proverbs 24:26 14. Argue politely. Even if you think your spouse said something foolish, please don't confirm it. Argue positively and politely. Talk about the issue at hand in a manner that makes it easy for your spouse to accept correction, thereby preventing a recurrence of such. Proverbs 17:14 If intimacy is your dream in your home, then be polite, handle your spouse politely and respect.


Author's Bio: 

Bisi Adewale is an international conference speaker on marriage and family life, the author of these best selling books: Secrets of an Irresistible Wife, Hot and Sizzling Marriage, 20 Highways to a Successful Marriage, Before you say I Do, and more than 60 other best selling books on marriage, singleness, intimacy, sex, love, relationship, parenting and family life.

He is the president of Family Booster Ministry and College of Marital Success (CMS) (Africa’s Premier Marriage Institute), Host of Family Booster Moments on TV, watched in many countries across the globe.

Bisi Adewale also hosts the popular Lagos Couples’ Conference and breakthrough for singles summit, get a free book from him at, you can buy his books on or, join him on