How To Change Anything

In my work, I talk with people every day about the things that hold them back from creating the life they want to have. These things range from thoughts of dis-empowerment, feelings of depression or fear, to behaviors like procrastination and avoidance. When I tell them the answer to creating the change they want, it always sounds too good to be true.

Usually, if it sounds too good to be true, it is not true, right? This is the one exception: our mind.

We complicate our lives to the point that we box ourselves into a corner, with no way out. We create so many boundaries around ourselves, that the light at the end of the tunnel disappears. Just because we do not see the light, does not mean it is not there.

Our job is to tear down the boundaries and the complicated system of self-limiting beliefs.

There are many ways to do this, but here is one of my favorite ways. I like it because it seems impossibly simple (which, in itself, tears one boundary down automatically – once I challenge myself to see that it is possible).

Our brain works like a river. Imagine that our thoughts are like water. Water flows from one point to another, in the easiest way possible. When a trickle finds its way down a mountain, more and more water tends to flow down that one path. Soon enough, you have a steady stream that soon turns into a flowing river. What if we decide that we want that water to end up in a different pond. How do we change that?

We challenge it.

We first introduce a new path (or, new possibility). Once the path is established, the water will naturally flow in the new direction, if it leads to the new pond in an efficient way.

This is how we change thought patterns. We establish a new neural connection in our brain by introducing a new thought, belief, or possibility. Then, we divert, divert, divert. Every time our thoughts go toward the old pond, put up the flood gate, and redirect that one thought to the new pond. This is done by simply stating the new thought.

The great thing about this process is that you do not have to believe the new thought for it to work.

Here is an example. Say you are struggling with a thought that tells you things will never change. You will always be stuck in this particular predicament. Introduce the thought “Things can change. Life will change.” You do not need to work out the details, just introduce the thought every time the negative one shows up.

Give yourself a couple of weeks to work with this process, then see how your outlook changes. Remember, simplicity is possible, and it will provide the easiest path of flow to your new pond of life!

Author's Bio: 

Sybil R Smith is a life coach and expressive arts therapist. She has a wide range of expertise, including music therapy, hospice, child psychotherapy, EMDR, and a M.A. degree in marriage and family therapy. She has helped clients deal with a range of issues including anxiety and panic disorders, life transitions, depression, and grief. Her mission is to show people how to live empowered lives so they can move past therapy and into forward motion. Sybil R Smith uses her training as a musician and performer to present creative ways to help move people through anxiety, depression, and grief to create smooth and joy-filled transitions. You can sign up for her thought-provoking EZine and meet her at