With the statistics of divorce being so high, the idea of 'staying together' can be almost impossible to imagine. For those who are in a relationship or already married, the fight is not over yet.

First, you decide. You decide that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with...even when things get bad. In order to make this decision, you have to be in a good place at the time. If you're in a negative frame of mind, sick, upset, emotionally unstable at the time, you won't be making the decision from your head and heart. You are not able to make a good decision because you are too emotional at the time. Wait until you feel better or you're more in control of your feelings; then decide.

Now, the real work comes into focus. This is when you need to tighten up your belt and be ready for anything. There are going to be many bumps along the way, and there may be days you feel like throwing in the towel, but you have to stay focused. Focused on the vow you made to yourself to keep it going.

Eventually, whatever was happening that made you question your decision will pass, and your feelings and thoughts of wanting to be in that relationship will return. If you stay aware of your emotions during the moments where you wait to decide, you learn that tough times are always going to invade your space, but you know the negative thoughts will subside and love will prevail.

Of course, there are exceptions to this process, like cheating and abuse, where you probably should have made a different decision to begin with, but for most couples out there, the bad weather suspends and the flowers, once again, begin to unfold.

Give your relationship the break that it needs to make good, clear decisions before you regret the outcome. The grass is not always greener on the other side, and you may find it needs a lot more watering. Stay focused…and do your part to make the relationship work.

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Author's Bio: 

KIMBERLY MITCHELL is the author of Loving with Purpose and writer of articles for such venues as her blog, LovingwithPurpose.org, EzineArticles.com, and other websites offering advice. As an entrepreneurial relationship contributor and a student of life, she believes that good or bad, personal experience is the best teacher.

Her history of talents range from producing and presenting instructional material and business solutions for business leaders, including management and leadership courses, personal development, diversity, and technical training, to website creation and graphic design of company newsletters, brochures, websites, and educational material. Her work in human resources, along with her technical ability, provided her opportunities to combine those skills, expanding her efforts to achieve success personally and professionally.

Today, Kim has taken the long road of putting what she knows to paper. She has received so much more from the experience than she ever expected and she's thankful for the opportunity to contribute. All she wants is to see palpable change in the way people treat each other...by living and loving with purpose.

Kim lives in Ohio with her husband, along with other family members and friends. For more information about relationships, please visit