TRUST ISSUES?

It’s amazing how many people I run across that have major trust issues.

The causes vary. In the information below, you will find some thoughts on dealing with trust issues, and issues of trust that come up in relationships.

If you conclude that self-esteem or “the past” are the primary contributors to your “trust issues”, we should (www.hopeserenity.ca) talk! We can offer some suggestions that will help you deal with these issues.

Enjoy the information and I hope you find it helpful!

How to Solve Trust Issues in a Relationship

At some point or another, you're likely to experience trust issues in your relationship.

Whether it's brought about by infidelity, a decrease in your own self esteem, your partner's
newly hired young assistant, or a simple change in your partner's behavior, your
relationship can weather this storm and rise above feelings of uncertainty.

Follow these tips to solve the trust issues you face so you can experience the
thriving relationship you deserve:

1. Work on your self-esteem. Many trust issues in relationships that were once thriving
stem from personal insecurities. If you've experienced significant changes in your
appearance or noticed a drop in your self-esteem, it's important to build up your
body image and self worth in order to rebuild the trust in your relationship.

• It's common to become suspicious of the company that your significant other is
keeping when your self-esteem plummets. The way you perceive yourself may be the
only thing in your relationship that has changed.

2. Reflect on your past. Did something happen in your childhood that has caused you
to become wary of trusting your heart to anyone? Did your parents choose to divorce
when you were young? Were you sexually abused in the past?

• These things and more can be responsible for your inability to trust others. When
you've endured emotional trauma, especially during your youth, its effects
can last decades. Speak to a therapist to help you find the root of the issue and learn
how to work past the event.

3. Talk about any indiscretions. If there has been infidelity within your relationship,
it's vital to hash out all hurt feelings and future expectations.

• If you've cheated, it's normal for your partner to act clingy for a while. They'll
want to know where you are, what you're doing, and what time you'll be home. They'll
ask if you'll be alone with anyone. Answer their questions truthfully and understand
that they are hurting.

4. Recommit yourself to one another. Sometimes a relationship needs a sign of
recommitment and devotion. Do something special together that signifies that your
love can and will overcome anything.

• If you're married, renew your vows to make it known that your love is abundant
and can rise over any obstacles that life may throw your way.

• If you're dating, go away on a relaxing day trip together and write a letter to each other
exclaiming your love and devotion.

5. Spend more time together. Both you and your partner are constantly changing
internally and your needs and wants are also subject to change. Ensure that
you're truly there alongside your partner to witness and be a part of those changes by
devoting more time to one another.

Trust is about more than believing that your partner will remain faithful. It's
about trusting that your partner will always be there for you in times of need, while also
being a prominent part of the most important events in your life. Work on your trust as
romantic partners - and as best friends - to truly guarantee a fruitful union.

Author's Bio: 

Keith is a Master Certified Coach with a focus on substance abuse and related issues coaching globally.