Whenever people learn that a woman has been suffering from abuse and battery in a relationship, the first thing they say is ‘Why doesn’t she leave?’ However, a woman who is in an abusive relationship, knows that it is not always that simple to leave. It is never an easy task to end a significant relationship, especially that of a husband and wife. It is even more difficult when you have already been beaten down psychologically, isolated from your family members and parents, threatened physically, and economically controlled.

Law firms like Broder Orland Murray & DeMattie LLC reveal that they have received numerous women clients who have come to them to file for a divorce after facing verbal and physical abuse for several years.

If you too are trapped in such a toxic relationship with your spouse and you know not what to do, keep reading.

Parting ways with an abusive husband - How to make that decision

Being in an abusive relationship, you must be facing the dichotomy of whether to save it or end it. Here are a few things to bear in mind while making the final decision:

  • When you’re still clinging to the hope that your husband will change

If this is going on in your mind, you’re wrong. Abuse keeps on happening as abusers usually have deep-rooted psychological issues. Although change is not something impossible, it will definitely not come easily and quickly. Change can only happen if the abuser accepts his behavior, stops blaming you, and seeks the help of a therapist.

  • When your partner has resolved to no longer abuse you

When the abusers are subject to consequences, they often coax for one last chance, they beg for pardon and resolve to change themselves. Often times it is seen that they don’t mean what they say as their primary goal is to not let you leave. He gets back to his usual abusive behavior once you decide to stay back.

  • When you think you can earnestly help the abuser

It is pretty natural that you’ll want to assist your partner in any little way you can. You might emotionally feel that you are the only one to comprehend his issues. However, the truth is that by supporting his abusive behavior and allowing repeated abuse, you are just giving him permission for further abuse.

  • When your partner has joined a counseling program

Even though your abusive husband has joined a counseling program, it is not guaranteed that he’ll change. There are several abusers who continue with their usual abusive and violent behavior even while going through a session. In case your husband minimizes the issue and stops giving excuses, that’s a positive sign. Yet you should base your decision on who your husband is now and never on what you hope he’ll be in the years to come.

Once you separate yourself from your abusive husband, it is important to keep yourself safe. Relocate to a place that can’t be located by your former husband. In case you both had children together, change their schools.

Author's Bio: 

Marina Pal is a renowned author and social media enthusiast.