Nowadays, there are numerous books that go into what women are like and the truth about female nature. If, then, a man wants to understand women, he won’t find that there is a shortage of information on this topic.

Yet, if he has this need, he doesn’t need to read a book, as he will be able to find a lot of information online. Here, he will be able to watch videos, read articles and read the thoughts that certain experts share on different social media sites.

Another Part

If he was to go down one of these routes and even if he didn’t, he could still have at least one male friend who is happy to answer his question. This friend might have had a lot of experience with women or he might not.

But, irrespective of this, he could tell him about what they are like and how he needs to behave to be successful with them. Based on how this friend comes across, it could be as though he truly knows what he is talking about.

The Next Phase

Assuming that he was to listen to a few experts online and perhaps what his friend says, he could find that he starts to notice certain things about women. After a while, he could come to the conclusion that this proves that what he has been told is the truth.

As his reality will validate what he has been told, this is not going to be much of a surprise. After all, if what they are saying wasn’t true, then he wouldn’t have experiences that back up what they say.

Good and Bad

Now, when it comes to what he has noticed, there could be things that he likes and things that he doesn’t like. Also, there could be things that he neither likes nor dislikes.

Due to this, he could have moments when he wishes that women were different. Part of him might even want to deny certain things that he sees and not be willing to fully accept them.

On The Sidelines

Anyway, at this point, it could be said that he won’t be having an impact on the experiences that he has with women. Or if he does, he won’t have much of an impact on what he experiences.

Therefore, he will simply be a passive observer, and this is why knowing the truth about women will allow him to behave in a way that will allow him to be successful with them. To use an analogy: this is then similar to understanding how a car works in as much as this would allow him to handle any issues that arise and to make sure it runs smoothly.

Stepping Back

However, what if he is not simply a passive observer of reality and what he believes has an effect on the experiences that he has with women? If this is the case, it would mean that the reason he experiences what he has been told is the truth is that he is a co-creator of his reality.

Thus, no matter how true something supposedly is, if it doesn’t take root in his own consciousness, he is not going to experience it. What this illustrates is how powerful his beliefs are and more importantly, how his consciousness shapes his outer world.

A Deeper Look

If he is open-minded and doesn’t disregard this, he could wonder how what is going on inside him could be shaping what is going on outside of him. The reason that his mind will find this hard to accept is that this part of him sees itself as separate from everyone and everything thing.

But, although this is an illusion, it is a necessary illusion, as it allows him to have his own experience. Taking this into account, as he wasn’t aware of how his inner world was shaping his outer world, it is to be expected that he was unable to see that he was being conditioned to experience life in a certain way.

A Different Approach

Right now, what could be clear is that he needs to be careful when it comes to what he believes about women. This is no different to how he needs to be careful when it comes to what he puts into his mouth as what he eats will have a big impact on his mental, emotional and physical health.

For him to have the kind of experiences that he wants to have, he will need to question what he believes and think about what he wants to experience. Along with this, he may also have emotional wounds to heal in order to materialise the experiences that he desires.


If a man can relate to this and he is ready to change his life, he may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

Author's Bio: 

Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, enmeshment, inner child, true self and inner awareness. With over three thousand, two hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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