Stop Confusing the Issue with the Facts
"It doesn't matter what you say, I've made up my mind and I'm not going to change it." Such self-sabotage is widespread, you've probably seen it often.

Everybody likes to be right. But when the need to be right is exacerbated by the dislike of change, then you get the hilarious comedian's line: I've made up my mind, stop trying to confuse me with the facts!

You've seen this in other people, but how about you? Whenever you disagree with someone, while refusing to look at their side of the matter and change your life, you're being right. You ignore whatever they say, and insist that your perspective is the only one possible.

When you decline to explore new perspectives, insisting you're right despite all evidence to the contrary, your self-sabotage eventually makes you frustrated and powerless, see George Bernard Shaw's awesome quote below!

Do You Know It All?
Insisting you know it all is a recipe for disaster. Especially when you’ve convinced yourself you know it all - since this demonstrates you've succumbed to your self sabotage mechanism. Don't just accept its thoughts, enjoy the freedom to learn and discover new things instead. It will change your life.

Discover the value in each disagreement! Each one gives you the opportunity to improve your context, and determine how to improve your effectiveness.

In any argument, both you and the other person think you're right. And from the narrow perspective that you come from, both of you are right. Yet you disagree! But how can you both be right? What a good question!

Are you Being Right?
The other's context is different to yours, so of course they think differently. And there's power in a new perspective! But unless you investigate why they think they are right, how can you benefit from that power and change your life?

Your self sabotage mechanism likes being right, so it persuades you to ignore the other person's evidence and insists that it is correct. You can sometimes tell when you're being right, if your belief has little rational basis you instead defend your position emotionally. So you ignore the good reasons for your disagreement, and simply insist on your position.

Mind you, you may have the mind-set surprisingly prevalent in our schools, and have been taught what to think rather than learning how to think. - do check this link out, it's amazing!

You simply believe what you've been told - and then defend it - rather than critically assessing its validity for yourself. Believing others - group think - is a big problem nowadays. You may not realize that this is being gullible! See #3 in this self-sabotage series: The Power in Skepticism, the weakness of Cynics and the Gullible.

Another article you might like is #5 in this self-sabotage series: Is it Good or Bad? How do You See the Situation?

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Food for Thought
Are you a "feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy."

- George Bernard Shaw, (1856-1950) inspirational Irish author and economist

Author's Bio: 

Cris Baker has much practice in overcoming adversity, he's been screwing things up for years! Why suffer the consequences of your own mistakes? Now you can benefit from real knowledge, crucial know-how gained from his vast experience with extensive pain and suffering!

You'll find enormous joy in overcoming your self-sabotage; check out changing your context at Life Strategies to discover how to change your life!