Acceptance is part of the transformation process. It is as important as setting goals. Many times, this word can be confused with passivity. However, paired with insight and awareness, it is a beneficial tool for positive change.

1. “Would of, Could of, Should of”

This saying speaks to the place in your thinking where your upset about what is happening in your life today is based on the meaning you have given your experience from the past. While you make lists of what your life might have been like had you made different choices, or better yet, others had made different choices, it is an exercise in futility unless you gain insight and meaning from the gentle or difficult nudging to shift your perception of your experience. It is through the channel of acknowledging your regret that allows you to untangle from the past so that you can identify your inner needs in your current experience in front of you more fully.

2. Acceptance Means Moving into the Present

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us. ~Joseph Campbell

Where you are today is a summation of many factors including what you needed to work out or work through in your life experience. Your experience is based on the conscious awareness you bring to it. Much like the cycle of a butterfly, you are only able to manage what your direct sense of what is happening to you and around you based on where you are in your evolutionary process. A caterpillar does not have yet the capacity to fly, however, it has the capacity within it to build a cocoon to house the transformation process. Acceptance does not mean that you sit and wallow. Acceptance is acknowledging the reality of what is going on in your life, so you can look at your current choices, plan and go into action in the present based on what you have learned through right action.

3. Accept Where I am, so I know what I might be.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.~ Lao Tzu

Accepting where you are in life in the moment in any particular area of your life creates freed up constricted energy that was devoted to worry, fear, pain and frustration. When accepting a situation free of resistance, it allows the opening of seeing more in-depth and with greater clarity. It allows your body-mind system to work with greater harmony and balance to create transformation within your self, your relationships while energizing new possibilities that transcend where you have already traveled.

Like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon, it takes time to strengthen its wings after completing its inner process from caterpillar to butterfly. Each butterfly opens and closes its newly found wings stretching within the enclosure until it is able to release itself from its cellular walls. The limits of this enclosure allowed it to become better able to be something more than caterpillar, however, it was through the different stages in the process of transformation that allowed for new possibilities of freedom and movement.

Acceptance is an integral part of the transformation process. Accessing where you are in the process allows your inner knowing builds resilience no matter what you are facing in life. This process allows you to move beyond your limiting beliefs to experience greater harmony and balance in your body-mind system so that you can strengthen your wings for greater freedom and life energy to dedicate to your wellness and well-being.

Author's Bio: 

Kimberly is a Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, Wellness and Well-being Life Coach and Person-Centered Expressive Therapist who works with clients to build greater integrity in your wellness and well-being. Working with clients all over the world, sessions create tangible and sustainable results by phone, Skype, in-person or proxy. Sessions get to the heart of what you need to repattern your life. Find out more at Windows to the Heart Repatterning about personal and group sessions that benefit your life, and get her FREE monthly newsletter/ebook with exclusive articles on conciousness science, monthly healing modalities and exclusive session offerings at