About Desire

From a Recent Newsletter:
Meditation.

Question: When you read that word, out of all the possibilities of what it could be, or mean, what is meditation to you?

For some of us it is a foreign concept. For others meditation a way to find balance. Yet for others, it is a way to run away for reality, which I’ll share my thoughts on in a bit.

When people ask me about meditation (which happens often after people discover that I teach Yoga) and I, in turn, so I can get a better idea of what they are thinking it is, ask them what their feelings are about meditation - I usually am told that it is a way of quieting the mind and finding balance.

Many of the techniques I have seen teachers of various sorts sharing over the years are simple focus on your breath and stop thinking scenarios. Personally, I feel I would have a better chance being elected President of our country than successfully “quieting” my mind and finding balance just by focusing on my breath and willing my mind quite. Which brings me to an interesting point I feel crucial, yet vastly overlooked when it comes to ideas about meditation.

If you are going to become interested in, or even practice meditation with the intent on finding balance, what aspects of your life are not balanced in the first place to the extent that you think meditation would help?

You see, I think of meditation as a way of facing your darkness and dealing with your own shit so it’s unconscious residue no longer plagues your mind, emotions and actions. After all, if you understand that which would create an internal obstacle or blockage in the first place - to the extent of letting it go, isn’t that what meditation is about? Or rather, should I say, wouldn’t that be a logical focal point of meditation - coming to terms with, understanding with higher consciousness, accepting and releasing that which causes you to suffer in the first place? For me, it is - and that is what I share in the form of Soulistic Touch with others.

However, being as I have decided to become more informative and less “sales” orientates in my writing - I will share my thoughts about where so much of our suffering comes from. Of course there is the obvious starting point, our minds - but there is also the aspect of what particular topic or area causes us to suffer the most?

Personally, I feel it has a lot to do with the force that brought us here in the first place. S-e-x. S-e-x-u-a-l Energy. The desire to connect on a deep level and the desire to share your most highly regarded s-e-x-u-a-l side with another person who is Mentally, Emotionally, S-e-x-u-a-l-l-y and Spiritually compatible with yourself.

Is that not important to you? Is that not something you long for when you are in times of not having? Is that something you have ever had? When you think of the idea, could your mental reaction be classified more as suffering or happiness? Get my point? Oh, and the deal with the “s-e” type of writing? Apparently there is a lot of stigma attached to that word and this message would get flagged as spam if I did not disguise it. Kind of strengthens my idea that many of us, even the world suffers because our overall ideas towards s-e-x-u-a-l-i-t-y.

Let’s say that you felt completely fulfilled from your s-e-x-u-a-l side. What would be next in terms of balance? For me, I think it is the ability to more deeply understand emotions and the illusion they sometimes trap up in - which is something I will write more in depth about in the future.

Mostly, this letter is an invitation to think about your life, how fast it goes by and what’s important to you. If finding balance is, do your really think that if you continue to do the same thing in your mind with the structure of your thoughts, that anything will change with you? That is the primary reason I am not in favor of “meditations” that simply alter your mind and space you out while you are practicing them. They don’t change anything. Like taking pills, they make you feel good for a bit and then you come back to reality and realize that drinking something, smoking something, or ingesting something is an easier way to alter your mind without really changing anything than practicing meditation is - and there you go.

On the flipside, which is what I have found to work very well for me in my own person life:

If I am feeling off balance I usually ask myself why. Typically it is because I feel something is lacking in my life. So then, the solution becomes placing my mind into a space as dynamically as possible that would allow me to feel what it would be like if I was actually experiencing what I felt I was lacking to begin with. Usually I will understand the structures in though that act as resistance as soon as I begin the process of placing my mind into unknown territory that I wish to define and experience. At that point I am able to more deeply understand where I am, why, and even a set of actions I can to if my desire to experience what I think I want is sincere. In other words, it reveals truth - and with truth, a lot changes! I sincerely wish everyone reading this the very best! I am available if you would like to contact me to clarify anything or to work with me.

Namaste,
Paul Bunting