One of the hardest things for us humans to grock is change. From the minute we are born we are subjected to it, surrounded by it and experience the results of it. Yet, we are resistant to change, afraid of the impact of it, and in general simply abhor it. You would think that by the time we reached adulthood, change would be a welcome life partner, considering that change normally brings with it the opportunity for self-realization and personal-growth. But no -- we kick, scream, and complain our way to adulthood allowing ourselves to be intimidated by something that is as part of us as breathing.

Well, the truth is our tiny little ego minds cannot seem to get a grip on change -- even if the mystery within us embraces it. It's simply a matter of what point of view you choose to see life from in any moment. If the eternal aspect of you is viewing life -- it is sure to see your current circumstances with neutrality, objectivity and detachment. However, if you are observing your life from your ego-mind, you are sure to be stressed, troubled and engaged in fighting life -- doomed to be caught up in the minutia of your circumstances and judging them to be good or bad from one moment to the next.

The result of this kind of resistance is suffering, something which we are all too familiar with. So how can we lift ourselves out of our suffering and learn to embrace change? The first step is to learn to embrace the truth. The truth is that there is only change and that change is initiated either by actions taken with awareness or without awareness. Even if you take action without awareness -- you are still going to create a reaction -- so why be surprised or pass blame? This is simply how the universe works.

Now let's talk about the second step -- detaching from internal judgment. Once you let go of your judgment of yourself and others -- you'll be able to see your world with your spiritual eyes and have neutrality regarding life. You totally lose your neutrality and clarity when you start judging your actions and the reactions that result from them.

Any time you choose to see your reality through your program/ego-mind you will experience pain. Sure it's nice if you could judge all the circumstances in your life as good -- but you would be experiencing happiness secondary to your judgment. That means that you are not centered and at peace -- you are still on an emotional roller coaster due to your judgment even if that judgment is "good."

That is why it’s important to seek neutrality or equanimity on our spiritual path -- it's good practice so that we can learn to see with our spiritual eyes rather than our filters. I encourage you to embrace change as your life partner and lover. It will have you enjoying your life a lot more and you'll become excited about living rather than being cautionary and fearful. Go ahead -- give it a try…

Author's Bio: 

Sheri Rosenthal DPM is a master Toltec teacher and author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Toltec Wisdom and Banish Mind Spam!. Having trained with don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements®, she currently takes students on spiritual journeys works with personal apprentices and enjoys being extremely happy. You can reach her at or and