How do you live your life? At cause or at effect? And what does that mean for you?

Take two people going for different jobs, both having all the right credentials and experience for the role. One of them approaches their interview from the perspective that it's completely down to their performance as to whether they get the job or not. They will choose how to present and project themselves and they will take 100% responsibility for their result. They feel pretty confident and in control.

The other person is approaching their interview differently - from the perspective that they'll do the best they can, but ultimately it's down to the interviewer's opinion of them and the other candidates' performance against theirs. They feel they have little control over the outcome, which makes them pretty nervous, and they believe that interview situations never bring out the best in them, so why should this one be any different?

Which one is more likely to be successful? My guess would be the first person. A clear example of being 'at cause'.

We know that a cause is something that makes something else happen. So when we're talking about living at cause, it's all about causing things to happen, making choices, taking action and full responsibility. Notice the position of power this puts
you in.

On the other side of the equation, an effect is what happens because of the cause. So living on the effect side means having things happen to us, living with excuses and reasons why something couldn't be, the choice and responsibility is 'taken' out of our
hands. It's a feeling of powerlessness and of being the victim, in many cases.

Think about people you know at each side of the equation. Firstly those people around you who know that if they want to do something, they will do it. They make their decision, they choose their approach and they keep going until they achieve
what they wanted. If something isn't working, they find another way and make it work, taking full responsibility for their goal and whatever happens on the way. They choose to have their result.

Think about people you know on the effect side. In situations where they
want something, but see themselves at the whim of others as to whether they get it. Setbacks are almost expected and they allow them to be setbacks. Everything is down to outside influences, they blame others and feel powerless. They end up with a unch of excuses and not their result.

The interesting thing is, that people on either side of the equation, whether at cause or effect, will each walk away patting themselves on the back. Why? Well, of
course, the 'at cause' group chose to have their result and they got it. While for the 'at effect' people it was completely out of their hands right from the start. They found
a reason (excuse?) why they couldn't have their result and walked away saying "see, I knew it wouldn't work". Either way they were right.

So the question to you really should be - not which side do you live at, but which side do you want to live at? Cause or effect? The key point here is that at
any given moment, you have the choice. You either allow what's happening to affect you and hold on to your excuses. Or you take full responsibility for what
is going on and choose to get your result. I know which I choose!

Try this... put yourself back at Cause!

Want to know the one question that can pull you out of that powerless feeling of being 'at effect'? Here goes... (drum roll?)...

How have I chosen to create this right now?

It's that simple. In any situation, if you can stop, ask that question of yourself and accept that no matter how much you want to answer it with "well, actually, I didn't create this"... you did. If you can accept 100% responsibility for what's going on, you
put yourself at cause and you immediately grant yourself the power to change it.

The next chance you get, try this. And if you'd like to let me know what result you get - feel free to email me! info@creedencetraining.co.uk

Much of the work that I do with my clients is around putting them at cause. Imagine how much more energy and power they have over their result when they are! If this might help you, do give me a call on 01983 759213. I always offer a free no obligation half hour consultation so you can get a feel for whether you'll get what you're looking for from coaching.

Author's Bio: 

Maggie Currie

Biography
I was born in Braintree, Essex, an illegitimate baby left in a children’s home. I was adopted and brought up in Barkingside, Essex and was sent to a private school at age 11 and achieved all the qualifications necessary to be a secretary. My first job at the age of 16 was with the Legal & General Assurance Society in London where I started out as a shorthand typist, progressing to personal secretary by the time I left to have my family at age 22. I married at age 19 and had three children. Unfortunately this marriage did not last and I remarried at age 32 and moved to Southend-on-Sea, Essex.
Returning to work when the children were old enough I worked for the NHS as the secretary to a Professor of Thoracic Medicine at The London Chest Hospital and subsequently for a Consultant Psychiatrist at Parklands Hospital in Basingstoke, where we had moved to from Southend-on-Sea in Essex when the children had all left home
I relocated to the Isle of Wight in 2003, having had a holiday home there since 1998, which was intended to be a retirement home. The move was prompted by the premature death of our next door neighbour just before her 60th birthday.
I started my own secretarial business on the Island aimed at small businesses who could not afford to employ another person. This has built up from just 1 customer in 2004 to over 60 currently.
Whilst on a Business Link course in 2004 I met someone who was undertaking a Life Coaching course with Newcastle College, and it was free at that time. It sounded interesting to me and I had nothing to lose, so I took their free Certificate and Diploma courses as well and successfully qualified as Personal Life Coach. I also discovered that I loved coaching.
I bumped into Jonathan Jay, who I remembered from his stage hypnotic act some ten years before in the holiday camps on the Isle of Wight, at a Small Business Exhibition at the NEC in 2005 and he suggested that I join him at the Coaching Academy to gain even better qualifications, which I did and successfully qualified as a Corporate & Executive Coach.
I met Dawn Breslin through the Coaching Academy and loved the work she did and the way she did it, and trained with her to become a Confidence Life Coach Practitioner and Confidence Group Trainer. I love this even more than just coaching.
More recently I have been licensed by Susan Jeffers to present her workshops based on her book “Feel the fear and do it anyway”. This is just fabulous.
I am on a mission to inspire everyone to find and live their passions - to be their authentic, true self. I feel my job is to be responsive, flexible and enabling, to draw out the star in people. In particular, I am skilled in rebuilding people's self-esteem and confidence, enabling them to develop to their full potential. To do all this requires a holistic, lively approach to personal and professional development, from the delivery of the training and coaching through to on-going support. And I’m interested in results – no ifs, no buts.
I have articles published in:

European Coaching Institute Newsletter June 2006 – Is it cool to be happy?
Hearing Concern Magazine 2006 - "Benefits of Thought Field Therapy in adapting to loss of hearing"
Business Vision Magazine - September 2006 - Do you want your ideal work/life balance?