Arranging a Bedroom for Love with the Aid of Feng Shui

According to Feng Shui, the ancient Chinese art of placement, the way the furniture in a bedroom is arranged, as well as the colors and accessories chosen for its decor, can tell a great deal about how two people are doing in a love relationship. Conversely, re-arranging the furniture and playing with colors and accessories according to certain Feng Shui rules, can help that couple relate to each other in ways that are more loving and which show equal respect for both partners.

For example, I remember consulting with a couple who had pushed the master bed against one wall on the side. The husband had to climb over the wife to get on or off the bed. During our initial interview he complained that the wife was “pushy.” Another client, a successful professional woman who right after marrying had moved to the husband's house, said her husband was selfish and cared nothing for her needs. Their master bedroom, after three years, still looked like a bachelor-right-out-of-college bedroom, with a lonely hair curler on one of the night stands being the only evidence of feminine presence. A platform bed with no headboard, un-matching wobbly night stands and an enormous bureau that one of the partners had dragged from a previous relationship said nothing of a handsome, successful middle aged couple with a passion for life.

The woman in the first example was insensitive to the husband's discomfort, while he was passive aggressive with her. The act of physically pushing the bed away from the wall together marked a commitment from both partners to make positive changes in their relationship.

In the second example, the couple was advised to get a proper master bedroom set, more in accordance with their present circumstance. They both agreed this was a good idea and said they would make it a priority. I was extremely surprised when they called for a follow up consultation a year later, to see that there had been no changes in the room. Tensions had escalated and they were on the brink of a divorce. I was saddened to see this. When a couple are unable to find the time and energy to work on what should be their “love nest” they probably are not making their relationship a priority.

HOW TO CREATE A MASTER BEDROOM THAT PROMOTES LOVE

These are the requirements for a master bedroom that promotes love:

FURNITURE PLACEMENT

- The bed should be placed in such a position that both partners can see the door, but no part of the bed should be right in front of the door.

- There should be a solid wall behind the headboard. There can be windows to the sides of the bed, but not right behind it.

- There should be ample space on both sides of the bed for both partners to be able to get to their side with ease.

- There should be a night table on each side of the bed. These two should be similar in size and design, if not equal. Place a soft yellow light lamp on each of them.

- A headboard symbolically adds the idea of solidity and stability to a relationship. A wooden headboard is better than a metallic one. A solid headboard is better than one with cutouts. Headboards with vertical “bars” are not recommended for the couple, as they are reminders of either cribs or prisons. Never hang anything cumbersome or heavy on the wall behind the headboard, only soft things that wouldn’t hurt anyone if they fell.

- In general, avoid furniture that has sharp edges.

COLORS:
Favor earth tones and all colors that resemble skin tones, as they will create a warm feeling.. This includes pink, brown, beige, yellow, cream, sand, etc. Have some accents in a shade or red, burgundy, or maroon, to add some fire to the relationship.

ART AND ACCESSORIES:
Only romantic artwork, photos or ornaments are welcome in the master bedroom, as well as pictures of the couple where they both look happy. 

All advice for the bedrooms of couples applies to the bedrooms of single people who would like to be married.

For graphics illustrating the furniture arrangement of the Feng Shui master bedroom please check:

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